2 year old obsessed with boobies

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I stopped breastfeeding about 6 months ago but my DS is still obsessed with my chest. He pulls my tops down to exposes some skin so he can rest his head which I first just thought was sweet that he wanted skin on skin but now it's like he can't have a cuddle without it. He pulls my dressing gown apart and screams if he can't be touching me. He strokes my chest and pushes his hands into my boobs in a way that makes my skin crawl and when I push his hands away and say no he just pushes back and shoves his head or hands right in there again. I want to be affectionate and give him contact but I can't go on with him touching me like this

I’m sorry you feel this way OP.

I didn’t breast feed, but my friend did. She has the same with her DS (she isn’t bothered) but her son is now 5 and exhibits this kind of behaviour. They just find it comforting and that’s what he’s always known.
My DD is four and still wants cuddles, but has to be on me. Agree it can be a little claustrophobic to have a sweaty little one want to be so close in this heat!
How old is he? Why does it suddenly make your skin crawl? Can you wear a high neck t shirt that makes it more difficult to grab and pull?

It will probably just take a while for his expectations to adjust - for his whole life they have been a source of comfort and security, and he has to get used to them being off limits now.

I would start by making your chest as inaccessible as possible - high necked t-shirts etc. Then lots of gentle modelling: when he touches you in a way you don’t like, say to him ‘mummy doesn’t want you to touch her chest because it’s uncomfortable. Why don’t you hold my hand / stroke my hair / squeeze my arm / whatever instead?’. Keep gently but consistently asserting your physical boundary and giving him an alternative so that he learns the comfort and security is still there.

They grow out of it. If you're comfortable with head on chest and it's the hands that's the issue then move the hands away and tell him not to. You may find it's easier to gradually reduce skin to skin than go cold turkey, ie gradually reduce the quantity of skin involved!

My six year old still does this. It irritates me often but it doesn't last forever. My other son stopped when he was 7.

It's the first comfort they knew. Their first memory. It makes sense.

I do understand how it feels though. I think you need to be gentle with him I think and ask once, twice, then tell him that you don't like it right now. Maybe give it limits? Like only at bedtime during storytime?

I bf until ds was 2 and he used to do this. Worse was the sort of casual nipple twiddling. Used to do whilst bf apparently it helps supply but was a habit that kept going.

Gentle but firm be consistent. Don't give in to the screaming. I used distraction mainly. Cuddly storytime so he'd sit on my lap facing away / looking at book resting his head on my chest. Satisfied his need for closeness. High necked clothes are also good to discourage little hands diving in every time you pick them up. Stopped trying after a few months.

He could be doing it because he wants comfort, or because he's interested in your reaction and wants to push boundaries.

Either way I'd say calmly but firmly each time something like 'no, that's a private place' or 'I don't want you to do that' BUT offering a substitute way to snuggle like 'I love cuddles but leave my top alone' or 'you can stroke my arm/neck but not my boobies'. Be calm not cross about it or he might feel rejected or think it's funny and do it more.

DD got really into stroking my ears about that age, she'd come for a cuddle then gently pull on my earlobes. I started thinking of them as tiny little boobs hanging off my ears!

Totally normal.

Take some magnesium.

Thank you all. I find it upsetting because I do like having closeness but for some reason the way he touches me just makes me feel so sick and tense. I have an older DD who is 5 and we love having a naked cuddle just being skin to skin but there just isn't the same level of touching that makes me cringe so much. I feel bad restricting him as I just imagined we would have the same skin cuddles as my daughter but urgh I feel horrible.

Magnesium sounds interesting will look into that thank you

A doreen bra and a high necked top will put a stop to that.

I only breastfed for a few months but my son is a little bit like this, not to the point of my skin being exposed in public or anything.

He puts his hand in between my cleavage?? It's like a comfort thing he does to nap or to cuddle.