Extremely clingy 7 month old

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Hi, first time poster here.

I am really struggling with my 7 month old DD. She is so clingy and won't even go to her grandparents who I will need for childcare. If I leave the room whilst she is with them she screams and cries to the point where she is gasping for air or is sick.

Has anyone else been through this? Should I just give her over to her grandparents now and let her cry it out? I have tried easing her into it with plenty of visits with me there so she knows them but it's not working. HELP

I have a clingy baby too, so I know the feeling!

When will you need to leave her with her grandparents? If it's a while in the future, I'd suggest just letting her be with you and see if she grows out of the clinginess (which I think is quite natural at this age). If it's sooner, maybe try leaving her with them for short spells, just going into another room but letting her know you're still there by singing or talking. Then build up to longer periods.

Is there an activity she loves? If so, start her off doing it with her grandparents before you leave the room/house.

Try leaving here there and just wait outside. Call them and see if she has calmed down. That's the first step I'd take.

Thanks for the reply

I go back to work in 4 months so I still have a little bit of time left but I really want her to be comfortable with her carers by then.

She likes going for walks so today we are going to try her nan walking her round the park whilst I sit at the cafe. I think I need to get better at letting her cry but I hate the thought that she thinks I've abandoned her.

She won't think you've abandoned her. She will be fine. I'm not a fan of crying it out but sometimes you just have to let them have a little cry. It's normal for you both to be a little upset but it will soon pass.

She's still so small. Dont let her cry. She's becoming more aware of the world and the fact though can leave her. Give it another month and she'll have changed so much. 4 months until you have to leave her is plenty of time for her to become independent and confident without you. There's no need to force it yet.

Thanks, think I needed to hear that. I'm on a limited timescale before work now so I'm going to have to get a bit firmer with leaving her even if it upsets us in the short term.

A lot can change in four months. My baby was like a different child between, say, five months and nine months. So much development happens in a short space of time. Don't worry!

Could she be going through a leap? My baby would get extremely clingy during these to the point she would spend most of the day in a carrier just so I could get on with stuff. Once the leap was over, she would go back to normal.
Please don't let her cry it out as she is still so small. As others have said, a lot can change in the next 4 months.
When my DD started at childcare, she cried for the first week when I dropped her off but the childminder said she would stop after a few minutes. Now my DD gets so excited to go and literally leaps out of my arms and into the childminders.

Go to grandparents house and let them deal with her whilst you are there, then gradually step out of the room for a minute then come back in, hate to use the analogy but it’s like leaving a puppy. Last week I held my granddaughter and for the first time she didn’t look for her mum, literally baby steps.

Thanks for all the replies, it's so daunting being a mom sometimes. All of my family (incl husband) have suggested I let her cry it out and she will get over it but I'm not sure how comfortable I feel with that and I'm the only one who thinks so which is making me second guess myself. Seeing that other people also think to take it slower makes me feel better. I think I'll have to compromise a little but I do feel more confident in my approach now.