Everything is just too hard. Anyone else?

[waveajay]

Need to rant.

Tired mum to 3 year old twins. It's relentless. I've been a stay at home mum for 3 years as we couldn't afford childcare.

Tourism is taking over locally so we can't go anywhere. Roads are jam packed, beach carparks are full and queues for shops/local restaurants are silly. We haven't been anywhere - it's just too much.

I'm tired after lockdown and last week I had do a coronavirus test on the kids. I'm still aching from trying to restrain them.

Kids are hard work and we had double tantrums at the park today as they've taken the swings away (social distancing purposes).

Everything is just so hard.

I know we are better off than a lot of people but this half term has been difficult.

Mil makes me feel like there's something wrong with me, saying that I must miss the kids when they're away in nursery. Quite the opposite. I love nursery. Don't get me wrong, I obviously adore my kids but I can't even think with them around sometimes. I just feel so unseen.

I feel much the same (I don’t have twins though, a 4 year old and an 11 month old). You have nothing to be ashamed about not missing your kids when they’re at nursery. I don’t miss mine, they’re not gone for a fortnight it’s 5 hours and the time goes bloody quickly!

Hopefully everything will feel better next week being back to normal.

3 year old twins is so exhausting, I remember it well. Would it help to focus on all the things that are going well...new skills they have acquired, the way they can (occasionally) entertain each other. We did a lot of singing and making houses under tables. Very little craft and messy play (too much for me)
Lots of easy food when you are stressed too...picnics rather than hot dishes.
Don't try to be supermum, when you looking after twins, whatever you do is superparenting if you can get them to the end of the day relatively happy.
Also don't forget a vitamin D or iron, B but supplement for YOU, it is easy to be rundown and diet won't be enough, you may need supplements.

You deserve a hug, a clap and a break! 3 year old twins must be fucking HARD !!!

Mine also napped aged 3. They get more tired than singletons I reckon.

@icepackquestion thanks. 😂 I've been waiting for that clap all through lockdown.

@waveajay in clapping for you right now. And making my OH clap too 🤣
My sister has twins so I've watched her suffer! 🤣

Your feelings sound normal! My children are aged from 2 to 11 - and the younger ones are very demanding but it gets easier. When they are older they can occupy themselves more for longer periods of time and don’t need your help constantly. I also love when mine are in nursery! They are such hard work and drive me mad a lot of the time even though I also love them and there are many good moments too.

Fuck me it's relentless and I only have one. You have all my respect! Added to that the tyranny of having to 'love every minute'...

I have a 3yr old and a 15m old and my gosh... it's non bloody stop. I am also on of those who you will never hear saying 'i just want them home' when they're at nursery, no no- it's good for them and for me haha.

But to conclude, you're not on your own, it's hard work, made harder by the fuckery that is the past year, so every day is a reason to be proud of yourself 💪🏻

Why do you keep listening to your MIL? She sounds like an absolute drain.