SAHM to only one toddler, feeling like a failure for needing a break

[Belle82]

My little girl it’s just over three years old and although she goes to nursery some days, last week she was very ill and so stayed home all week, this week I am ill and it’s half term and we’re not able to do anything because of me being unwell.

I feel like I’m going stir crazy, but this isn’t the first time I felt this way. I see all these parents little children who take life completely in their stride and so I feel like a complete failure when I am a stay at home mum to only one toddler and I desperately need a break.
My husband does help and take over for a short time when he works from home.

I don’t know if being pregnant with the increased irritability has made this worse but I feel like I’m loosing my mind some days.
I love my little girl more than life itself, I just feel so touched out by early afternoon almost every day at the moment.

I see all these parents two or three children who take life completely in their stride

Those other parents are just putting on a good face if you ask me. I spent my second pregnancy feeling like death warmed up and was regularly touched out and desperate for space. A newborn and a toddler was actually easier.

Everyone needs a break sometimes. Three year olds can be relentless.

Everybody feels the need for a break so don't feel bad about that.

I'm a sahm to 5 and 29wk pregnant, my husband is military so it's just me and the kids most of the time. The youngest are 6 and tbh they are pretty low maintenance attention wise these days as they get engrossed in games on their tablets. They just play with eachother once their times up for the day. This allows me to get stuff done and have a nap (which is a daily thing now). We've been to the park today but they did moan about having to go out until we were there, kids of today.

I think you’re doing incredibly well to only be experiencing this at 3 years. Mine were 9 and 11 months and I very happily skipped off to work. It’s incredibly hard being a SAHP and I a bit dread when mine are off.

Op , it's totally normal and sounds full on. It's so hard when you aren't feeling well and you have to look after a dc too. I had many times when (3dcs) i had a illness but had to also take care of everyone else when all you want to do crawl into bed and rest.
Hopefully she will be back in nursery soon and if you can you can catch up on some rest..Also if your 3 year likes cartoons don't feel bad about having them on while you curl up and rest. You'll have another one soon make sure and plan for little life hacks to help too. Best of luck,