Today has been too much

[sassysuspenders]

I didn't know where to put this. Im sorry, I'm just a bit frazzled today - It's been a long fun day NOT

My Mum brought round some groceries for me today and she brought with her a friend who I will refer to as "Wicked Witch from Hell" (For lots of reasons I won't get into)

WWFH doesn't understand that my Son is on a routine and I damn well struggled for eight weeks to get him on that routine. He has a certain time to nap where I can do things I need/want to do, and he can get some much needed snooze time in. Mum and WWFH came round at naptime. WWFH woke my baby up just as he'd fallen asleep, took him out of his bassinet then proceeded to bounce him up and down and she tried to give him a dummy all while he was screaming at the top of his guts

I asked three times for her to give him back. The third time I asked she called me precious and tried to leave the room with him in her arms. I panicked, snatched him back and pushed her away - I know I could have handled it better but in that moment all I could think was "She's leaving with him. Get him back"

I want chocolate. And a big glass of non alcoholic wine, and maybe a hand hold and some reassurance that I'm not a horrid person for reacting the way I did.

I could never get mine into a routine, but that said I can't believe she woke your sleeping baby up and tried to walk off with him. That is SO out of order.

She sounds fucking awful. What did your mum do?

Non alcoholic wine tastes like donkey piss though do you might need something else!

@nomorebabiesnow That's what I said. And my Mum won't even back me up - I worked hard to get baby into a routine, it took all my patience. I've been told to make amends. Heck no - Im not budging

@ShirleyPhallus

She sounds fucking awful. What did your mum do?

Non alcoholic wine tastes like donkey piss though do you might need something else!

Oh I would. I'm still breastfeeding though plus teetotal, but trust me if I wasn't I'd forget being teetotal for a hot second and drink myself silly. My Mum did jack-all and asked me to apologise because WWFH has bruises that I highly suspect aren't even from me but from her Husband and Son. Not my problem, really isn't

Anyone who wakes up someone else's sleeping baby is an absolute idiot - routine or not.

YANBU and you are not a horrid person - WWFH should be banned with immediate effect. If anybody went against my wishes like that and then ignored my requests to give my baby back I think I would end up doing a lot worse than you did. Starting with a kick up the arse out of the door.
Don’t doubt yourself, you are the baby’s Mum and make the decisions.

P.s What did your Mum say/do whilst this was happening?

Sorry cross post.

Your Mum should be in your corner. Why does she entertain this woman? Is your Mum generally unsupportive?

I hope you are not ever going to allow WWFH into your house or life again.

@RedSquirrelsAreAwesome - My Mum was in the kitchen putting away Groceries and She just brushed it off with "WWFH wanted to fuss over the baby" and I said I was more than happy for them to sit in the living room with me and have a catch up for a few hours while baby napped

Its the fact that she kicked the bassinet stand and claimed she tripped that bugs me most

Urgh I hate people who think it’s fine and take it upon themselves to pick up a sleeping baby.
I would also be annoyed op, you handled it a lot better than me.

Ugh I had someone once wake DC1 up as a baby just because they wanted a cuddle.

No one takes a baby away from their mum when she is asking for the baby back, it’s fucking cruel, sorry but it is. I’d not allow her in your house again.

Also if anyone comes at nap time again I usually open the door very slowly a crack and whisper in a slightly deranged way through the gap “he’s sleeping. You can come in if you don’t make any sudden loud noises.”

Babies need sleep, they are people too.

Well done for advocating for your tiny baby!!!

The scariest part is; I hardly know this Woman but apparently she once tried to do the same thing to me when I was about thirteen/fourteen months old - My Dad called my Mum out on it. God bless my Dad for always having my back

She's definitely not allowed in my home anymore. And my Dad changed my locks. We both think she took a spare key for some weird reason (i have six keys hanging up - One was missing)

OMG she is batshit. So glad your Dad changed the locks. That’s great your Dad is supportive.

Bloody hell. I was shocked until it got to the spare key part!! This woman is unhinged!!!!!!!

Absolutely follow your gut on this! So glad you have the locks changed. X

Ummmm that is not acceptable routine or not. Your baby was asleep how dare she take it upon herself to pick your child up without consent and then refuse to give the little one back when you asked. She's a frickin weirdo and I wouldn't let her near your baby again. Your mum should also understand that it wasn't acceptable what her friend did. Don't apologise at all it's you who should be receiving an apology

What?

She kicked the crib, tried to run off with the baby, you had to grab him back and push her, she’s got bruises, she’s stolen your key and you’ve had the locks changed already?

@Bluntness100

Innit!

Ok, this woman sounds completely nuts! She wants to have a cuddle - get a dog! Nabbing your spare key is totally insane. And I'd call your mum out too - if she doesn't apologise for her friends behaviour, she's not seeing the baby either. Stick up for yourself. Glad dad's on your side as well.

Yes, this always happens to me

@Bluntness100

What?

She kicked the crib, tried to run off with the baby, you had to grab him back and push her, she’s got bruises, she’s stolen your key and you’ve had the locks changed already?

Oh, so close! The opening post was good too!

Yes, indeed, 'today has been too much' to be believed.

@Keepitcleanplease

Yes, this always happens to me

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@Keepitcleanplease

Half term 🤦🏻‍♀️ every time