To not send my child to nursery

[Lullaby88]

My 3 year old daughter is due to start nursery soon. The manager said she can come for 6 weeks until they break up for summer and then start in sept after that or start in sept and thyl keep her a place.
Iv recently given birth and recovering/breastfeeding most the time so thought itd b good to send her for 6 weeks before summer as im occupied with my newborn. I can still keep her busy on the side and active but not like i used to.
The thing is im not sure if i can even get ready and be therd to drop/pick her as my newborn is demanding and somedays i dont hsv time to get ready. I know by september this will iron out and il b more settled in a routine as will my newborn. Also im still recovering with stitches etc.
Theres also a huge number of covid cases in my area and we have been cautioned of this. Alot of school kids are passing and catching covid which also concerns me.
But then i think my daughter needs to grow and develop and interact and shes finding it hard not having all the attention and i feel bad not sending her.
What would you do? Send her now or wait till sept? Does 6weeks (3timesa week) make a difference? Please advice me.

I reckon try just one day to see how you cope before you cancel it.
if you can manage it great.
if not at least you know for sure that it's just too much, too early.

speak to nursery and explain your dilemma and whether they are happy with above plan (ie no falling out over cost/days booked).
don't give up just yet, in a few weeks you might feel completely differently than how you are today.

congrats on baby! x

It won't matter in the long run what you choose, so do what works best for you. We decided to wait and start DD in Sept so we didn't start her just after having another baby, but DHs work pattern meant he was on hand quite a bit. You might be glad of the time with only 1 to look after?

How strict is arrival time? Is it a problem if you are late? However if it's easier to wait, that is fine, she will start soon enough! And it's not that long til the holidays now.

I would give it a try.
Do you have a partner who can help?

Thanks for the advice. I have a partner but he's working and not available for pick ups possibly the odd drop off though. Just wondering if im stressing too much over a trivial thing?

You don't need to stress either way, she is very young and a 6 week delay won't affect her.

I would be the same tbh, sounds daunting trying to get two kids sorted, yourself and out the house for a certain time but I think once your used to it, in a routine with it it’ll be fine.
Is the nursery strict with arrival times do you know?
We have a half hour slot to arrive so not exactly a set time, could be worth checking to give yourself abit time if needed.

I found getting DD1 to nursery helped DD1 find a routine... We used to walk though, so she would settle for a nap in the pram from 8.45 to 10.30ish on those days.

Helped DD2 find a routine that should say. We were doing it twice a week from when DD2 was a few days old. School holidays were harder.

I would send her for the 6 weeks, at 3 I’m guessing she’ll be starting school next sept so good to get a routine. Newborns need to fall into the older kids routine really as they are portable and can sleep anywhere

They charge for delays additional fees.
Would it more beneficial to get in the full swing of things in sept. As if she starts now she will get used/as will I then she'l be home again for 6 weeks and back in sept .

She will be in nursery in sept till july still.

Sep would be absolutely fine!
I think you’ll be more settled with your new LO then and feel better about it

It depends on what works for you really - I think it'd be good for you and DC2, and good for your older DD, to have this routine in place and for her to have time playing with other kids when you're inevitably preoccupied with the little one, feeding etc. That'd be worth trying to leave on time for/be late and so be it. And see what your partner can do - for example, even if not dropping off/picking up, can he get DD dressed / make or set out her breakfast the night before / brush her teeth or deal with DC2 early in the morning?

If it were me, I would try my best to send her in. Obviously if covid was really bad in my area then I may not. There are quite a few mums at my dds preschool who come in with their newborns. It's so lovely to see Some brought in their newborns about a week of having c-sections. I think you should at least give it a try and if it is not working for you and dd, then postpone until september. It will be nice for your dd to interact with other little ones her own age.

Perhaps if your dh can drop off in the mornings to start with then you could maybe sort baby out in time for pick up?

In a similar situation and we are waiting till September

I agree with the development etc. But yes im living in a covid hotspot at the moment. Any advice on that?

The 3yo will manage just fine starting in Sept, but I can't help thinking the effort in the morning for those 6wks is worth the rest you'd get during the day. If you are recognising that you will find it difficult to keep her entertained and busy, then you will end up with a bored toddler who's climbing the walls and causing chaos. Nursery would stimulate and exhaust her and you could get away with chilled days when she's home.
I would get your DP to do the drop offs on the days he can, and get her ready the days he can't. The baby doesn't need to be changed out of their sleepsuit, so you would just need to sling something vaguely decent on, load the DCs into the car and go on your days.

2nd children grow up more robustly than the 1st because it doesn’t matter if they need a feed, nursery pickup is in 5 minutes and we’re leaving NOW.😂

You’ll find that having the time stable of nursery drop offs and pick ups will get you into a routine in no time.

Loads of us have had dc at nursery and school with a new baby too. Valuable time with newborn I think! Yes to routine as well and dc1 getting what they need - something beneficial for them. You’ll be fine.

How much of a hotspot OP? I may be overly pessimistic but I expect that if covid is still with us come autumn/winter things will get worse on that front, so you may have the same issue come Set. In summer, with all the outdoor activities anyone can ask for and touch wood variants that aren't vaccine resistant, I guess just be sure that your assessment of the risk is reasonable. Again - it's down to what suits you.

Its high families in my area are affected that are young and healthy. And yes my partner rekons we might b heading for a local lockdown soon.so it worries me that my daughter might miss out on nursery completly.

Could your partner come to an agreement with work that he will drop off and then you've got the day to get sorted to pick up. By sorted I mean, shove some clothes on m, stick your hair up and brush teeth? You have a newborn so that's plenty.

Can your DP use some A/L or toil to help?

I can't help thinking the effort in the morning for those 6wks is worth the rest you'd get during the day. If you are recognising that you will find it difficult to keep her entertained and busy, then you will end up with a bored toddler who's climbing the walls and causing chaos. Nursery would stimulate and exhaust her and you could get away with chilled days when she's home.

I agree with this. The pay off for getting her into nursery will mean she's getting to have fun, enjoying lots of new experiences, making new friends and will hopefully lead to a tired toddler. Meanwhile you'll be able to focus on the baby without the guilt of not entertaining the eldest.

you know with all other circumstances I think I'd just start in Sept.

at aged 3 doing 6 weeks then a break then back doesn't guarantee a smooth going back at all. she'll forget a lot until Sept. mine did.

just take it easy for now, sounds like starting now might be too much hassle and unnecessary worry for you. and your state of mind is more important than 6 weeks of nursery. it's not like she'd be missing weeks of lectures. it's just play.
she won't miss anything because of starting in September.