My mum babysits my 20 month old 2 days per week and picks up my 3 yrold from preschool those days. I work those 2 days and do about 5-10 hours from home when the kids are asleep.
My kids absolutely adore her however I think my mum is doing this for me rather than she actually enjoys it. It’s a lot to ask of her (she’s retired 59)
She never takes my daughter anywhere often makes excuses like it’s too cold when it’s 15-16 degrees outside and when I’ve worked from home they are mostly watching tv. She often says she might do painting with her today but never does. On the day I have just dd2 we get up to all kids but my mother isn’t me I know. Today she had both dds because of half term and I worked from mums. She lives opposite a park and stayed in all day (weather was glorious) the kids were climbing the walls. I ended up taking them the park about 4pm while my mum and dad sat in. Now home I’m catching up on work.
I’ve repeatedly said if it’s too much I’ll get a childminder but she says she loves to have them. I think deep down she struggles but won’t admit. I appreciate everything she has done.
Should I just get a childminder even tho she’s telling me not to I don’t know 🙈did will go to preschool a few mornings from age 2