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I don't know how to keep going right now

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Livinginchaos · 01/06/2021 00:14

I don't know where to begin. DS8 was diagnosed with autism recently. Adhd also suspected. He is also struggling with anxiety, mood swings and frequently talks about wanting to die.

I am a single parent. His dad is still on the scene and has ds once a week but otherwise he is with me. I have no family support. DS hasn't managed school since before lockdown and I am in the long process of trying to get him an ehcp for a school better suited to his needs.

So, DS is with me all day and all night, 6 days a week. He won't let me leave him with anyone. And he needs constant help to manage his sadness/anger/anxiety. I never know how he will be from one minute to the next. He needs constant reassurance too, cuddles, which sounds lovely but its suffocating me.

On top of this I have a chronic illness and I am in pain and exhausted. My one day off a week is spent sleeping and trying to recover before it all starts again.

I can't keep this up. Every day is groundhog day. I am lonely. My mood is increasingly low. I am doing my utmost to help ds, but its not enough. He is not getting an education at all, he is so sad and finding life so hard. I can't see a light at the end of the tunnel right now.

I have tried engaging services for help, but am finding getting help to be a full time bloody job. And still I have no help!

Today I found myself wishing I hadnt had him. I can't believe I am even writing that. Not something I can admit to anyone in real life and not something I am proud of. I love my son, dearly and totally. But I have nothing left to give. I don't want this life.

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hilariousnamehere · 01/06/2021 00:21

FlowersCakeWine for you. I have no useful advice as no children, but this sounds so hard. Is there any possibility of respite care for ds or do you need the ehcp in place for that?

Please don't feel bad for wishing - it's very clear you love your son and also very clear this is a really difficult situation.

andy12427 · 01/06/2021 02:24

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