I cannot cope 😞 pls help

[Jodielaa]

Firstly I apologise if this ends up long. I’m just absolutely shatterd and don’t know what else to do. DC is 9 months, and for some reason waking EVERY half hour/ 45 mins through the night. This has been every night for 8 weeks. I’ve tried everything. Extending her day naps, reducing her day naps, offering more food, earlier bedtime, offering more milk, calpol/ nurofen incase she was in pain. She Dosent wake up properly she just winges and when I put her dummy in she goes back to sleep, this goes on all night until 4/5 and then she’s up for the day. I’m literally at breaking point. I am with their dad. But not for long as he does not do anything. No help. Nothing. Because he works long hours he does nothing with the kids as he’s “tired”. I have no support family friends and I am at breaking point. Any tips are greatly appreciated. TIA

Get rid of the dummy. Losing it is what's waking her as she needs it to self settle between cycles.

Your husband can’t keep impregnating you and then discarding you and his kids, why don’t you go and stay in a hotel for a few days by yourself? The sperminator can parent. Why renovate a house with a male that you’ll be divorcing? Stick it up for sale as it is, while the market is so hot.

Dd never slept through until we moved and she had her own room.. The first night!
And every night after that.

@Jodielaa it was a regression for us (8m) and took forever to get rid of. It will pass. As for your DH I am sure others will say the same - two parents are needed. We have 2 under 2 and live in one bedroom flat so I hear you (we all sleep in the same room). It will get better!

Do make sure your baby is super rested, not too long between naps and not in bed later than 8pm. Naps during the day and has good dinner. All of this, plus rom that is dark, white noise and yeah ride it out.

No advice as I have a frequent waker too but I’ve read that 8-10 months is the worst time for sleep in the first year as there’s so much going on for them developmentally which impacts sleep.

Your DH is awful for not helping though, sleep deprivation is literally torture.