Anyone have a four year age gap?

[blaisealex]

Thinking about trying for a second DC. Current DC is three in June. So, age gap is looking like it's going to be just shy of four years. I was hoping it would be a smaller gap so they'd be closer in age.

I have this image in my head of them growing up together, having a close bond, sharing experiences together, etc. And I worry this is less likely with a larger age gap.

Has anyone got a similar gap and can share their experiences?

Thanks!

I have 2 girls 4 year age gap 11 and 15 they are now both at same senior school they love each other so much they fight yes. The bond is so tight. I was worried it was to large and age gap but it’s perfect but now the little one says when she goes to uni I’ll be stuck here without her 😳.

4 years two months between mine. They're 8.5 and 4.5. It's a wonderful age gap! The oldest was big enough to understand but they play together and love each other so much.

4 years between my two girls.

They have never had a good relationship, have knocked 7 bells out of each other as soon as the youngest was old enough.

At one point, we would go out in 2 separate cars as they couldn't travel together.

Now, at 18 and 14, they are not speaking and haven't done for a couple of months.
Honestly, if I knew then what I know now, I would have stuck to one child.

I had 3 in under 4 years, and my 2 dds are about 4 years apart. There's ds in the middle.

Now they're grown up the 2 girls get on very well (they're 17 and 21) and though they get on ok with their 19 year old brother, the strongest bond is with each other.

DS 19, DD 15. 4 years, 1 month between them. They used to play together but less do as they got older, they don't have a lot into do with each other now but they do love each other and when they're in the house together they can get along well, they'd just never chose that. Growing up it was harder finding things to do which would suit them both, but we managed somehow. Holidays are harder as they age too, as hotel rooms are a bit difficult to sort out.

There are 5 years between my sister and me, less difficult days out but we only became close as we became adults, when she went to uni I was only 13 and I was lonely.

I think you've had a range of replies that show it depends on the individual children and how well you can cater for both at different stages.

I don't think 4 year gap is bad at all as that was fine for my second and third - also you get 1:1 time with baby whilst older child starts school

I'd say that much bigger gaps become a bit harder so crack on if you want another baby.

Really it's about what suits you and your little family and what other people find, isn't the be all, end all. One of my friends has a 15 year gap between her girls, meh, circumstance. They love each other but are at different stages. Families come in all shapes and sizes - there is no magic number because you might have DC only a year apart that just ' don't get on ' no matter how hard you try, due to their personalities

I don't have a second child yet. However the age gap between me and my sister is 4.5 years and the age gap between my husband and his sister is 4.5 years.
We all get in very well, me and my sister have always had a close relationship! My husband and his sister have become closer as they got past the teenage years. When they were younger they got in very well also xxx

We have a 4yr 5mth gap. I can honestly say it’s been perfect for us and them. Two boys, they get on brilliantly. Now 18 and 13.

I think it’s the fact that they were never into the same thing at the same time and also the that younger one didn’t have to ‘acquire’ his older brother’s stuff or interests - although they have shared interests and hobbies now.

I’m a fan!

It's a great age gap 👍🏼

DD is 12 and DS is 8 (not that you would notice DD is two inches taller at 5ft 1 than DS) and DS calls her his second mum and is incredibly protective of her (which might get interesting as she gets older as he is a big 8 and she is petite). They adore each other - they have never really fought and they get on well. They have shared interests now (Harry Potter, Pixar Movies and Animal Crossing) so spend time on those

5 years and 8 months here. DS loves his brother, loves carrying him around and playing chase games! DS2 doesn't seem to mind the manhandling. DS1 doesn't like his lego being interfered with, but that's because DS2 still likes to put it in his mouth. I think they'll happily play lego together in a few years!
We're going to legoland in August. DS1 said 'if you buy me lego you'll have to buy the baby duplo.' Darn it he's right. Nothing to do with him wanting to play with the duplo..,

4 years between DD and DS2. They're never more than 2 inches apart... fighting... but at a loss if they're not near each other... fighting.

Not my own kids (I have a 6 year 10 month gap between them!!) but my sister and I have a 3 year 10 month gap and we’ve always been very close and are best friends (now 31, nearly 32 and 35).