How do you deal with having different parenting styles when it comes to discipline?
I am very quietly spoken, and try not to raise my voice to our 19 mo DD, I try to distract from the bad behaviour and explain to her why her behaviour is not kind/acceptable. Most of the time it works, and if not I'll sit down and let her get it out of her system. I have 10+ years in childcare so I'm not sure if that has a lot to do with how I handle things.
DH is the opposite, can be quite short tempered and while he will try and talk to her first if he isn't getting anywhere fast he will go straight to shouting.
My in-laws are the same and that's how he was brought up so I suppose he sees no wrong in it but I'm really struggling with it more and more lately.
Tonight the in-laws were here and she threw a toy at my FIL, before I could get there I just heard DH roar at her then she started crying.
We've spoken a lot about it before and I've tried explaining to him that she's still only a baby and she's just learning to manage these massive feelings that she's never dealt with before so of course she's going to have tantrums and push boundaries. He says he gets it and it's like he really tries for a couple of days then we have a bad day again and it's straight back to the shouting.
I'm honestly at a loss of what else to do/say, does anyone have any advice?