Worried about whether she did feed

[breastfeedermama]

I feel like such a bad mum, I’m doubting myself and feel like rubbish and feel like I didn’t breast feed my 3 month old properly without realising 😢

Please don’t judge me here as I’ve had such an awful 2 weeks because my 4 years old, my 21 month old and myself have had a bad cough/cold and my 21 month has not wanted to eat and I’ve had my mind on that ect

So I last breastfed my 3 month old at 7am before the school run, and then I went on the school run and nipped to asda and my baby had a long sleep in pram ( this is usual for her)
I came back and I was so preoccupied with a phone call I had to make I just sat down with the baby and then I remember having a bad stomach pain And had to rush to the toilet ( sorry TMI) so put baby down in her bouncer. I wasn’t long and she haha started screaming and screaming I didnt know why. I thought it was wind so tried burping her and calming her, I tried feeding her again but she wouldn’t latch on. she was screaming on and off for over an hour and I was so preoccupied calming her, I then decided to give her calpol ( thinking she could have had ear ache like my son had this week) then I managed to latch her in with some reluctance and she fed and then was happy again.

So now I’m worried that she went back to be happy after that feed because when I sat to feed her previous she didn’t actually latch on and feed and actually didn’t get any milk so that’s 8 hours without a feed if that’s the case. Or maybe the calpol only took 8 minutes to work and that’s why she felt better

I’m going out of my mind. Let’s say she didn’t get any milk on 8 hours what damage will that do to her 😢😢

This has NEVER happened before. I’ve had such a bad week and maybe she did latch on when I sat down to feed and im just over worrying

Didn't mean to write haha in my post don't know what happened there

I'm sure she would have let you know in very strong terms if she had missed a feed!

How often does she normally feed? It won't have done her any harm to have gone without a feed, but I doubt that she did

I think you are over worrying. Babies (well not mine but I've heard some do!) go 8 hours overnight without feeding. She is now happily fed.

You fed her at 7am, she seemed content and had her usual nap. She almost certainly had enough milk at that time or she wouldn't have had her nice snooze.

Maybe she had had a bad dream, or a sore stomach, or had just woken up with the raging arse, and that's why she was crying when she woke up. Even if she hadn't fed properly for 8 hours, she filled herself up. Lots of babies sleep 12 hours a night by her age (not mine).

Anyway, she will be absolutely fine. You sound exhausted and like you've got a lot on your plate. Have a cuppa and a biscuit and try to let go of the worry. She's fine

It sounds lime you have a lot going on! Can you set reminders on your phone for feeds? Or tick them off a list for a little while if that'll help you feel better about it?

8 hours is a long time for a 3 month old to go without milk, especially BF but I'm sure she'll be fine. Some babies go overnight without feeding so not majorly different I'd guess?

It sounds like you are doing a great job, juggling everything and being poorly. Do not be hard on yourself.

I remember when DS was very little, he was crying. Myself and DH did everything we could think of to comfort him. Changed his nappy, dressed him warmer, undressed him to make him cooler, took him out in the buggy. In our sleep deprived state we didn't realise he hadn't actually been feed 🤦‍♀️ I feed him and he went happily to sleep! It happens! Luckily they are very little and don't hold it against you!

Let’s say she didn’t get any milk on 8 hours what damage will that do to her

Absolutely nothing!

Take a deep breath and relax. She is fine.

Mistakes happen, just set an alarm next time to remind you to feed her every 2-3 hours. Bf babies aren’t like ff babies - they don’t always cry or notice when they’re hungry due to the relatively smaller amounts so it’s better to be safe. But be kind to yourself - maybe this is a sign you might have too much on. So try and cut back where possible.

Please don’t worry at all. Sounds like you’ve done everything right, and she’s absolutely fine. Even if she didn’t feed for 8 hours it won’t have harmed her in the slightest, so please put that worry from your mind

If it is any consolation my baby went 8 hours without feeding when she was one day old and she is now as fat as a barrel and as jolly as Santa so don’t worry about it!