How to punish this?

[losingtheplottt]

My dd (bloody annoying d) is making me lose my mind. She is 7, nearly 8.

Every night its a constant battle.

I tuck her in, she gets out up to 10 times with the most stupid excuses, it ruins my evening, puts me in a shit mood for dp and she isnt going to sleep until 10 so must be knackered!!

I do the whole, no X tomorrow (ipad, tv etc etc) or the reward chart thing, or the screaming the house down in fury thing. Being nice just makes her take the piss more.

WTF do i do?!?!?

'puts me in a shit mood for dp' is an odd comment. Maybe your dd senses this is your focus and feels pushed out?

Agree with this. It’s a weird comment. It sounds like the only reason this is an issue is it’s a nuisance for your love life. Perhaps DD is jealous that you’re going down to spend time with your boyfriend and not her. Perhaps she can hear you talking while she’s in bed.

Its bath/shower etc then getting ready for bed, no screen time, i let her have wind down time in her room from 7, then 7:30 sometimes 8 its lights out.

What does she do for wind down? Could you spend that half hour with her? Reading to her, let her read to you. Talk about what she is doing tomorrow.

Is this a recent thing? Does she have black out blinds?

No problem. There's a sequel called Jasper and the Crystals too. And there's loads on YouTube. I bought mine an Echo Dot each for Christmas so now I just connect DS1s Kindle to the Dot via Bluetooth and hit play on some on YouTube.
I look for ones that are 30 minutes plus to give him time to fall asleep.

This is a favourite m.youtube.com/watch?v=mePhaZTZkPk

We got a yoto player for our son and he can listen to an audiobook until 8 then onto the guided meditation sleepy tales.

Sounds like she might just need some reassurance or wants to be with you for a bit.

Could you tuck her in, sit with her for a few minutes to see if anything is bothering her. Praise her for laying down nicely etc then put on the story as suggested by a PP?

If this is a new thing then there may be something wrong/she may be wanting to be with you for a reason.

When I say 'something wrong' I mean 'something my be bothering her'.

Dd(6) started doing this - we talked about it in the day while we were both calm and she said she was lonely. We came to a 'deal' where she gas to stay in bed with only alexa on (calm music or stories) and I will pop in every 30 mins or so to cuddle and kiss and she can ask me 1 question. She now is only usually awake for the first check in. Yes, it pushes her sleep time to slightly later than I'd like, but on the whole it's been positive

[quote losingtheplottt]@pollylocketpickedapocket no, so its still just me thats the focus. For example only ever coming to find me not him, occasionally will go for a hug but that all[/quote]
I suspected as much. Probably a bit insecure then, as she’s picking up you’d rather be with him than her. Poor kid.

It's coming across a bit like you're seeing her as a nuisance interrupting your love life. This might be how it's coming across to her, too so perhaps she's just wanting some reassurance if she's feeling a bit insecure. Do you do a bedtime story with her? Hang around for a chat about her day before lights out?