A bit of a harsh title to this thread but, essentially, I wonder what makes people go for DC n2 (or3 or 4) if they then constantly complain about how tired, stressed, sleep deprived they are. I come across this on MN a lot as well as in real life. It seems to me that some couple (not all of them but a good number I’d say) decide to have more than one child just because it’s the way it should be (traditionally a family isn’t complete with just 1 DC) or because they don’t want to leave their child as an only. I find often, with n2, the relationship between parent and DC is compromised because of the lack of time and energy you can invest... why would people want to go through this just so “the family is complete”?
Again, I am fully aware that sometimes couple strongly desire to have more DC and that’s fair enough! But talking to people, I think n2 is a tick box exercise sometimes.