Just so tired

[mummaliketoeat]

So a little from me... I'm a mum of a wonderful 15 month old - she is lovely but my god she wears me out as she is permanently on the go the hours she is awake!
I'm getting to the point I'm permanently exhausted and no amount of sleep or coffee makes a difference.
My partner is out the house 6am-7pm so I do everything for my little girl and around the house, food shopping and cooking... and I think I'm just so exhausted the thought of doing this basically on my own for a few years is scary and makes me want to cry- ive been on the brink of tears the last few days and I know it's just cause I'm so tired
I don't know what to do, does anyone have any tips about just getting through it?!
Thank you! X

I can imagine I will feel just like you in 14 months time!
Would it be feasible to have some help with cleaning at least? What about some childcare, maybe nursery one day a week to give you some breathing space and time to rest?

Parenting a young child is absolutely exhausting - you can’t take your eyes off them at that age!

It might be worth looking at your vitamin and water intake, as poor diet and mild dehydration can make me feel awful. Or maybe getting your bloods checked by the GP if you feel it could be a medical issue?

If not a morning or two of childcare could be the space you need to sleep and breathe alone, if that is possible for you financially. Knowing you’ll have a morning off can make all the difference in getting through the tough days.

It is exhausting.
If you can afford help at all, either in terms of help with cleaning or childcare then a few hours of that might be well worth it. When my children were tiny (toddler and newborn) I paid a cleaner 2x hrs a week, even though we are not well off it was worth it for the help it gave me.

What is your partner doing on the days he's not working? If the answer is not a lot then you need a sit-down chat in which you describe how exhausted you are and outline practical things he should be doing while he's around. Make it really clear you need support.

Examples of things mine does for me without needing to be asked: takes ds out to the park or on a day out to give me time alone to rest and / or clean, bins, garden work, tidies up toys, hoovers, household admin etc. You shouldn't be doing everything alone.

Sometimes (I'm talking once every 4-6 weeks) I get to lie-in for as long as I want and my fiancé gets up with our little boy. If this doesn't happen for you then that's something else to be discussed.