He is sooo shy/reserved/quiet!

[Alwaystired4]

My 5 yr old son is so quiet at school...i really don't/didn't see it as a big deal at all except that everyone CONSTANTLY mentions it.
His teachers, his class mates, parents of class mates...
(He has plenty if friends, interacts fine with them and isn't quiet at play time)
As soon as its time to pick him up at home time he is SUPER quiet
He won't say goodbye or wave to any of his friends..when they wave goodbye and say goodbye he won't bat an eyelid. It's starting to get awkward when other people keep commenting on it
His teacher says he hardly says a words. His friends ask their mums why he is so quiet.
I never make a big deal of it because I just figure he's tired after a long day or feeling a bit shy but I have to keep apologising to his friends mums when he won't answer them!

Before anyone goes bananas ...does anyone else experience anything similar with their child/children?
Any moody comments will probably be ignored, friendly chat only! X x x xx x x x
Thanks

Mine is the same. I do think there is a certain amount of tiredness in play after school and for mine I know there are some nerves going in for the day. I wouldn’t worry too much OP.

I think he is probably tired and thinking about going home. I’m the same , my colleagues make a big deal after a long shift, saying goodbye, what are your plans, etc when I just want to get home.

My DS has a friend in his class who is very similar and it's quite extreme. He is absolutely fine with my DS and comes for play dates and talks to me but shuts down if we bump into them unexpectedly in the street or if DS' sibling speaks to him. He's recently been diagnosed with selective mutism - may be worth exploring if it's holding him back at school?

www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/selective-mutism/

Mine is quiet and reserved. He's just as introvert as we are as his parents. Yes it was commented on at Primary school, but he soon got comfortable enough to raise his voice and became just as active in school as at home.

When we're out other places he's quiet and reserved again.

He's now 13, perfectly happy with his introvert self, and just scowls at people who think he should be more sociable, boistrous and loud.

Aw thanks folks 🙂 that's kinda what i figured too! It's a long day for a 5 year old! Thanks for lovely friendly answers 🙂🙂

Just a quick note to double check - I was very underweight when I was younger, I just wasn't given adequate food and I was similar to your son.
I remember even in primary I would rather sit down and chat at playtimes rather than play .I was also quiet in lessons or with friends but only because I just didn't have the energy I would just let others speak.
This continued until I was able to buy my own food at lunch and I almost had a personality change. I wasn't quiet anymore. I was less "well behaved" in lessons (previously just toeing the line as it was easier to sit and do minimal work than anything else).
If you can, please see if you can change what he eats, just in case! He might not want to be like that