feeling like a bad mum

[mammaragnhild]

Just in need of venting really and my mum isn't picking up her phone lol.

Does anyone else feel like all the mums say they make mistakes and have bad days etc but you hardly ever actually see it?? I feel like they are just saying it and I am the only one who is actually not doing a great job as a mum. :( I have a 1 year old son and I just feel like I make wrong decisions for him all the time. Neglect to bring change of clothes the day he has a big blow out. Forget to cover up the pram as I go away a few minutes and it starts to rain and soaking the seat. Haven't bought him wellies because he isn't quite walking yet but that means he's had to get his little feet wet and cold a couple of times at forest school. How silly is that of me!!?? Poor boy. I am ordering some wellies on amazon this instant even if it means he'll outgrow them before he can walk properly. I thought I would have gotten the hang of motherhood at this stage but am still stumbling my way through it. Feel judged by other mums around me for it too.

Oh gosh OP all those things are totally normal. We all forget things! Even before kids and the added responsibilities, we are human, we forget things. Don't be too hard on yourself. I was as FTM but now as a mum of two (1.5 and 3.5), my brain has settled more and I have changed jobs to a less stressful one and I forget less, but it still happens. And I agree that amazon is a lifesaver at times!!! Don't be so hard on yourself. Who is judging you?

Oh please don’t feel bad!

I once forgot to bring clean nappies to meet a friend and had to fashion one out of a muslin on a park bench!

Love them and do your best.

Perfection is overrated.

Try bit to beat yourself up. I was Mrs organised quite good in the baby and young child stage I impressed myself but I very stressed.

However, i have failed massively at the teenage years and this is being noticed, is being referred to and remembered by the very vocal
unforgiving teens especially DD. At least your baby stage won’t be and you will prob be a brill mum to teenagers (whereas I am most definitely not).

Watch Motherland if you haven’t already its very funny and try not to beat yourself up.

thanks everyone! feeling a bit better about my self after a cuddly afternoon with my son. it's so hard not to be hard on your self when it comes to your dc

Oh I do stuff like this all the time! Got two dds and thought I'd be more prepared second time around. Never have the right weather wear for them in the right season, always forgot spare nappies for after swimming so dd ended up coming home either with no nappy on or sitting in a wet swim nappy, NEVER take spare clothes out and this has caught me out so many times, never remember to take Wipes even though they are so so helpful for so many eventualities. You're definitely not alone!