Potty training at childminders

[strawberry]

Started potty training with DS (2.5) last week. He was dry by day 3 with 1 small accident when we went out. Admittedly we didn't go out much. This morning he did a wee all by himself on the potty while I was getting dressed.

BUT since being back at childminders on Monday, he has not weed once in potty whilst there(although ok with poo). Yesterday she got fed up with it and put him in a nappy. I don't blame her but not sure what to do. Don't want to give him mixed messages. Sent him in pants this morning. Will he be confused if he wears nappies at childminders and pants with me?

Surely the childminder should deal with this as you request her to? It should be your decision, not hers. If he will wee on his own potty but not on hers, could you take his own potty to the childminders?

Thanks wwb. I did actually take his special red car (!) potty today so fingers crossed this has some effect.

Do other mners agree that childminder should keep in him pants? I would be interested to hear from other childminders especially on this.

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am a childminder (old name childmindersam!)

Have one 2 1/2 year old who parents want potty trained but send her in nappies! i do let her sit on potty at certain times but when have let her run around in pants she hasnt a clue! have her in pull ups now but am not pushing her as her parents want! Unfortunately if i let her wear pants all day she just wees everywhere and i end up cleaning all day instead of caring for the children! i do potty training to a point but if they not ready then they not ready.

Myabe use pullups and suggest to childminder he sits on potty every half hour or so, that way if he wees it doesnt matter and he can get used to the potty!

I think if you've made such good progress at home you should have another chat with the childminder about persevering.

We're sort of in the reverse situation in that our childminder actually prompted the potty-training process (dd is 2.3), and we're playing catch-up at home! We are doing a mixture of pants when we're at home, but nappy when we're out and about, because we are having accidents. I worry about confusing dd with all the going back and forth between sometimes being in nappies and sometimes not, but I don't see any alternative for us at the moment as we're always out and about.

Good luck

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i HATE pull ups too and never used them with my own ds, problem is that if child wont wee on potty then they are going to get poorly! a pullup is a compromise so they can still use potty and feel like pants. Agree that nappy is a step back and can affect childs self esteem.

Strawberry, maybe your son just didn't want to wee at the minders. Different children do different things. DD2 would wee at every opportunity in every potty and every toilet. DD1 would only wee at home and DS1 was potty trained in a day and a half. Relax a little more. I agree with Bonkerz. Your childminder will do as much as she can, but she does need to do other things with not only your child but any others that she looks after. He may decide that he's ready to train straight away, or maybe he's not completely ready. It will happen and soon he'll be like my DD2 and it will be all you can do to stop him. lol. Hope I don't sound like I'm having a go, was a minder for years until the twins and now my hands are really full.

I have just trained two of my mindies, at my instigation.

I use terry towelling trainers, sufficiently absorbent to catch most of a wee, but still make them feel uncomfortable and wet. I find that they catch on very quickly when they feel wet, and within a few days very reliable in pants. I too hate pull ups,jsut likea nappy really.

Boots do some really nice trainer pants, with soft outers, in pretty colours, not the big scrathy things of yesteryear!

Both my two came on a monday and went home on Friday fully trained, much to the parents alarm as they had to continue it over the weekend, but found it no problem