How soon is too soon to leave baby with grandparents?

[Tryingtobe123]

Hi all

It is my boyfriends birthday in June when our son will be 11 weeks old. My parents who we trust 100% have offered to have him for a night so that we can have some drinks with our friends. I am formula feeding and he is generally a really relaxed happy baby.

I am apprehensive that I’ll feel anxious about leaving him when he’s that young but also know it will be lovely for him to spend time with my parents. When did you all leave baby with grandparents? Is this too early to be leaving him with them?!

I always think you know your own baby best. My son was over a year but he was breastfed and a TERRIBLE sleeper so it was frankly impossible before then. But there really is no right or wrong. Trust your instincts on it.

Whenever you feel comfortable. My parents first had DC at 6 weeks. Myself and DP went out for the evening but stayed over night at my parents so we were on hand if they needed us. Soon after they started having DC for full nights occasionally.

My 1st was 8 weeks old and he stayed with MIL & FIL, my second was around 8 months ish as he was a terrible sleeper. If you feel comfortable that is what matters, if you don't then leave it a while longer.

I have left DD2(7mo) with my parents for a couple of hours here and there and a day after Easter when I had a keeping in touch day at work. We’ve arranged for both DDs to stay overnight at the end of August when DD2 will be 11mo.

With DD1, it took ages for me to feel comfortable leaving her at all. I’m a lot more relaxed now but not comfortable with overnights yet.

It’s the right time when you feel it’s right.

Mine were about 16 months old, but again breastfed and chronic sleepers! I wouldn’t have left mine anywhere like as early as 11 weeks but it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. It matters what you think.

It a very personal question. It largely depends on how you decide to parent and opportunity. DD1 (5 yrs) and she has only been away from both of us once over night when I was giving birth to DD2. DD2 is nearly 2 yrs old now.