When to leave baby with grandparents?

[Tryingtobe123]

Hi all

It is my boyfriends birthday in June when our son will be 11 weeks old. My parents who we trust 100% have offered to have him for a night so that we can have some drinks with our friends. I am formula feeding and he is generally a really relaxed happy baby.

I am apprehensive that I’ll feel anxious about leaving him when he’s that young but also know it will be lovely for him to spend time with my parents. When did you all leave baby with grandparents? Is this too early to be leaving him with them?!

My sister's daughter in law started leaving the baby with her Fri evening until Sat evening from 3 months and does this every week. However I imagine this is quite unusual.

How about a few practice runs?
You leave baby with them for an hour , then two, then 4. Gets everybody used to everything, and you can be confident they will cope and know the routine you have. It is really good to have people that your baby is relaxed with incase of emergency further down the line.
And you never know, you might ALL like the arrangement on a regular basis!!

Straight away. I let my ds have a sleepover at his nanny's house every week from a couple of weeks old. My mum one week and my mil the next week. If you trust them 100% then I don't see any problem. You need time for yourself too. I think you should take the offer and enjoy yourself.

I couldn't cope with leaving baby overnight that soon, baby would be perfectly happy though so don't worry about it.

Our eldest was 11mth. Our 2nd was 16.5mth, I was birthing number 3. 3rd was even older and then our twins older again. They have all been happy with nights away from me and I don't mind so much once they're a bit older. Neither of us drink nowadays so if we go out for an evening we have my parents watch them at our house until we get home, overnight would only be if we went away somewhere which is very rare.

1st baby 18 months, 2nd is 11 months and never stayed out yet, but tbf we don't really have anyone who would offer.

My baby was 8 weeks, wasn't meant to have a sleepover but he settled while we were having a meal and didn't actually wake up till 6 the next morning 🙈 very glad we did, only stayed there once more now hes turned into a baby who hated sleep 😒🤣

No, it will be lovely for your parents. I'm sure if your baby had a choice he would rather be with the people he knows really well, but ultimately you do what you feel comfortable with, and if you think he will be happy enough then go for it.

Mine still haven't at 3 years and 10 months - the disadvantages of breastfeeding and not living near family! I say go for it. At the same time, if it's too soon for you that's fine too. Do whatever you want without a shred of guilt either way

Mines two and haven’t left him yet. I feel like people judge me for not leaving him yet. But If your comfortable just go for it.

You might find it harder to leave them the longer you leave it. For me I am glad I let my ds stay there from an early age. It's nice for them to spend time with him. Also I feel lucky that he has a great family that wanna spend time with him and I'm glad I encouraged that. He has a great bond with all his family now and they love taking him places, he gets spoiled. You also need to make time for yourself and your relationship and it's nice to have a break once a week.

Oh my god definitely go for it! You absolutely deserve a break, that first three months are so tough. He’ll be fine and he won’t even remember it. You might feel a bit nervous on the night but that’s what alcohol is for and plus I bet your parents will be more than happy for you to call them to check in. Have a lovely time

My daughter is nearly two and still not slept at her grandparents!

We never left our babies overnight with anyone. It would have been too much for my mum and definitely too much for my husband's mum. But mine used to have the baby for 2-3 hours at a time. It depends on the age and health of your parents really.
We never had an unknown babysitter until they were mid primary age either.