2 year old not talking

[MrsWarleggan]

My youngest DD turns 2 next month.

No talking whatsoever. No muma, no dada. Nothing. All she does is scream, whinge and shout.

Nothing wrong with her hearing. If you call her up for a bath when she's downstairs she's straight up. Understands EVERYTHING.

She was standing by her toy box the other day which she wanted by trying to reach up for. I said to her "Say please and mummy will get it for you" she just screamed at me getting more and more stroppy when I refused. I the said "Say please and mummy will get it, if you don't you can't have it" She then huffed, slammed her hands into her lap, stuck her bottom lip out and bowed her head whilst trying to look up at me.

My parents babysit a couple of times a week and are really starting to struggle with her as it's having a really negative impact on her behaviour. I've spoken to HV and all I get is that kids develop at different times and not to worry, but to be 2 with absolutely nothing..... Surely that can't be right??

I constantly talk to her, read, sing which she loves (perhaps not the singing) and responds with smiles, laughs, claps and loves a boogie to music.

It's really starting to upset me, especially when I see my parents get so frustrated with her. They've intimated that they don't think they can handle her for much longer, and that perhaps I should look at nurseries but I can't afford the extra childcare per month.

Any advice?

@WhySoSensitive can I ask how your little guy is getting on my little lad turned 2 a few days ago he only days dadda and it’s a little concerning. We just started him in nursery this week so hoping it will bring him on thanks 🙏 x

[quote FinnsMammy]@WhySoSensitive can I ask how your little guy is getting on my little lad turned 2 a few days ago he only days dadda and it’s a little concerning. We just started him in nursery this week so hoping it will bring him on thanks 🙏 x[/quote]
Nursery worked absolute wonders for my 2 year old who, at the beginning of this year couldn't talk.
He can now tell you colours, numbers and so much more.
The difference is pretty incredible.
It will help your LO a lot! Hope the settling in at nursery is going ok!

@RoseGoldGlasses thank you for responding.I tried to get him into this specific nursery for a year as they are supposed to be brilliant with speech delays but I could never get a spot in any nursery they were all full finally I got a spot 🙌 he started this week mom to fri 9 to 5 and I’m praying it brings him on. I am so worried for him x

@FinnsMammy that's brilliant!
It's so hard isn't it, many tears have been shed!
But honestly he'll absolutely thrive, it's great for them in so many ways.

They are only 2, not much vocab at thst age. Im studying childhood development, its nothing to worry about as long as they are progressing in other areas such as cognitive skills etc they all develop at different rates

@MissMaple82

They are only 2, not much vocab at thst age. Im studying childhood development, its nothing to worry about as long as they are progressing in other areas such as cognitive skills etc they all develop at different rates

I do think that's easier said than done. Ofc they all develop at different at rates but when your 2 year old couldn't say anything, at all, it is concerning. Thankfully my HV was amazing and put a lot in place for child as they too were concerned.

Get a proper hearing test from audiology (HV should be able to refer). Glue ear can cause loss of hearing at only certain frequencies so a child can appear to be able to hear fine but might struggle with hearing speech sounds clearly.

These are really good as well (a lot of nurseries use them to build communication skills):

ican.org.uk/shop/toddler-talk/

@ISaidDontLickTheBin thanks I actually got him a private hearing test at 16 months abd all looked ok except 1test where he was too young to get an accurate result so we have booked this back in for this Wednesday I wasn’t overly concerned re his hearing as he seems to hear fine but that’s very interesting re the frequencies thank you !

@RoseGoldGlasses I agree if he had 5 words even I wouldn’t be too concerned but he is 24.5 months and hasn’t one single word he just babbles a lot.

SALT referral. My youngest needed help as he didn't start talking until after the age of 2. Lots of work done with SALT regularly since then. Our first activity involved bubbles. "1,2,3...pop!" No expectations for DS to join in, but eventually he made a noise and it just started from there. Putting favourite books or toys in boxes just slightly out of their reach but in their sight. Even if they have to ask for it by gesturing. It's a start. Waiting is a big part of these activities. A box that requires help to open so they need to get your attention to open.

Good luck with the referral. Your wee one will be talking soon enough. As one elderly guy said to me a few years ago when DS had to get his hearing test done, sitting in the waiting area. "Once he starts talking you won't be able to shut him up!"😂

Thankfully we have a link SALT at the nursery DS attends who runs groups. It's fantastic. Lots of support out there.

I wouldn't panic at nearly 2 OP, if she understands what you r saying there are no problems, some kids take time to build their confidence. Neither of mine really got going till they were 2.5. If you try to force it it will take longer. If my dd pointed to something, we would give it to her and say 'ta', which was something she started to mimic. Ta and 'this' were her first words. Keep building confidence, reading, talking, encouraging. Believe me once they start you will long for the quiet days! my son didn't speak till 2.5 and now at 4 he can pronounce every dinosaur that ever walked the earth! Good luck

I think sometimes we speak for our children more than we think.
‘Do you want a drink?’ Child nods/makes noise ‘Ok I’ll get you a drink’ child gets hold if it.
As a PP said, try talking less using single words so play with toy cars and repeat car now and again or if it goes fast say fast but keep it simple.

My dd was a very late talker. When he became older we found he had dyslexia. We were told this is what had impacted his speech.

He’s 28 now and a journalist. He must have started speaking at some point!

My DS is 27 months and says quite a bit but sometimes strings two words together. He is always talking in his own language . He does say quite a lot of singular words and babbles a lot! He understands absolutely everything and is very clever. On our 2 year check, I asked the HV to refer him to SAL. He has his hearing check in a months time to check that. I think his hearing is fine. Just selective hearing

@HarrisMcCoo some good tips here I will try them. My little boy just seems to take his time at everything he was a bum shuffler and only properly took off walking when he turned 2, 2 weeks ago. I feel like it’s a case of late to walk late to talk. It’s just a waiting game I am just blessed he is the sweetest happiest little guy so no real tantrums yet due to lack of communication 🙏

My niece also didn't talk and only babbled at that age, then suddenly aged 4 and at nursery she started speaking full sentences and having conversations in what felt like a matter of weeks!

I do think not being able to communicate with words can be a source of frustration for them but being around other kids at nursery can be a huge help.

FinnsMammy your DS will get there too, it often just takes time - no problem🙌

Thanks @Snickers94 this is comforting to know. Thanks @HarrisMcCoo I hope so !

@RoseGoldGlasses how is your baby now?
mine is 21 month old with no words. May be go and wow sometimes. But he makes the sound of them, no idea if that counts.
he says muma when he cries i am not sure if he refers me that time.
he anyways is very happy child. He also started pointing at exact 18 month running. ( thank god as i was panicking from his 14month)
he understands the relevant things as of now. Like ball, bring your bunny. Give me this ball.
i am so concerned about speech