How to tell ds we are moving house when he doesn't want to

[dhw]

he is only 5 so can't remember ever having moved before. We are about to put house on the market but i don't know how to tell him. I need to make it fun and an adventure. But he has said so many time that he doesn't want to ever leave this house.....

how on earth do i tell him tonight?

any advice gratefully recieved

dhw

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Will he be staying at the same school - is he more bothered about that? If so, reassure him.

Let him come house hunting and help choose the new house and his bedroom. Tell him he can have his room done how he wants it. If its got a bigger garden empahise that and how there may be room for a swing, etc.

We moved when dd was nearly 3 and for about 6months she kept asking when we were going home. Now she can't even remember the old house. She was worried her toys wouldn't be coming and the cat so remember he may be worried about stuff like that.

It is hard. We moved when ds2 was 7 and he took it very badly. I think he would still like to move back to where we were and we have been here nearly 3 years now.

We had to move because dh was made redundant and got a new job. I just had to keep saying to ds2 "We had to move, we couldn't stay where we were because of Daddy's job". We acknowledged the good things about where we are now and tried to turn the sadness of moving into an appreciation of the fun he had had then iyswim.

What reason do you have for moving? Is it something a 5 year old can understand?

Forgot to say, my other children (then aged 8, 5 and 2) were not really bothered by the move. Are you sure your ds will mind?

we are downsizing.
am thinking of moving shcools for him too - worried it might be too much though.
have just told him - and he burst into tears.

If you could keep him at his present school, that would help. I don't think my ds particularly cared about moving house, it was his school and friends he missed.

I have a lot of experience of this dh as ds was very similar and we moved at that age schools too for my health reasons mainly.Saw this and didn't realise it was you Hope you are ok Lets meet for a coffee soon xxx

Both my dc didn't really want to move when we did, but we had to for dh's job. Ds suffered the most as he had a really really best friend - I just tried to make it sound as positive as I could, even though I had to tell white lies as I didn't know what it would be like either to be honest. Then when we moved I had to try and make sure their room, toys, books etc were treated with priority unpacking, we explored the neighbourhood and tested all the ice cream parlours and bakeries in the first couple of weeks too!