taking a 3 month old to a wedding

[kay06072021]

Hi everyone!
my baby is due at the beginning of July, and my partner and I have been invited to a wedding. The bride has also invited baby along as it’s a child friendly wedding.

Almost everybody I work with is attending, and most of them probably wouldn’t have met the baby by then. I’m sure everyone will want to hold him and have a cuddle, which is fine but I’m a first time mum and that will be the first big event I take him too and i’m really nervous about him crying/getting upset.

I guess i’m just looking for positive stories/tips on how to get through the ceremony and the party after.

thank you x

Hope you have a lovely time, I went to a wedding when my daughter was that age and she slept through most of it! If you're breastfeeding, wear separates to make life easier and just be prepared for one of you to step outside with the baby during quiet bits if they get fretful.

I doubt that many people will want a cuddle, really. I don't usually want to hold other people's babies, tiny ones are usually happier with their parents and are a bit risky when you are wearing a posh frock, so I imagine most people will be happy just to coo 😊

Have an escape plan. Stay at/very close to the venue if you can, so that you can go back to your room to feed, and if it's a bit over-whelming. If that's not an option, at least have a car on site. A friend of mine hired a camper van for a country wedding (no hotel for miles) when her DS was 3 months and that worked really well.

Also, if he is overwhelmed, fend off anyone who wants a cuddle by wearing a muslin over your shoulder and telling them he's got terrible reflux

We took DD to a wedding around that age. She also slept in the pram pretty much the whole time and I felt very smug watching the parents of toddlers chase them around (we’d left our 2 year old with grandparents thankfully)

It was very helpful staying at the wedding venue so I could go upstairs and feed and change her during the gaps in the day. Our room wasn’t ready when we arrived but my friend let us use her room until it was ready so we had somewhere to chill for a bit. If you don’t have a hotel room you could probably ask if the venue has a private space you could use.

I wore a dress that was easy to pull down for breastfeeding, and had a muslin for covering up and generally protecting myself and everyone from spit up.

This was before covid, and she’s my second child so I didn’t really mind her being passed around a bit to be honest. But if that’s an issue you could wear the baby in a sling. We also decided that as I was closest to the couple getting married that if she started to fuss during a crucial point then DH would take her outside.

We didn’t stay too late at the evening do as I was totally knackered, but she didn’t seem bothered by the music and just slept in the pram. We also just used the pram for her to sleep overnight as it was just one night.

Tiny babies are so easy to take anywhere. Chances are excellent the baby will sleep most of the time due to the noise in the background. Just relax, go to the wedding, and have fun. You and your partner can take turns in case the baby needs to be taken out/away.

I took my daughter to a wedding when she was 14 weeks. It was great - she slept mort of the time. My DH took her out incase she cried in the service or speeches. I don't remember anyone cuddling her but then I didn't offer her to anyone - 90% of people won't ask! The hardest thing was finding a dress I could feed in.

I would use the wedding as an excuse to buy a really pretty ring sling. This will make it easy to hold the baby and give baby a quiet place to rest and relax sort of protected from the crowds.

Just position yourselves close to the door during the ceremony so you / your partner can step out if baby starts to get noisy. If things do get a bit much then you can always leave the party a bit early - no one would mind.

I took mine when he was 2 months old to a wedding. We stayed there the whole time. I wore an easy dress to get boobs out if I needed to bf. He had cuddles and went around and slept. He woke up and was fed and changed and again went around for cuddles and slept for the whole thing even when there was loud music. Life was so much easier for me and I had so much freedom. 1-6 months was amazing in terms of being everywhere you want because they are easy and less mobile. If I go to a wedding now, no way will I ever take him with me as he is 2 year old and he will ruin the whole thing. You will be fine plus if anything happens, you have an excuse to leave as you have a baby ;)

Oh I forgot to add, because of Covid I doubt anyone would try to hold the baby so you will be lucky if you don't like handing baby for cuddles. I never minded as I got the chance to eat food but I also had the pushchair which was a small yo yo (0-6mnths) and tucked in comfortably next to me without taking space and said to people who wanted to hold him oh he is about to sleep blah blah blah, oh he has just settled.

Took DC1 to a wedding at 12 weeks. I stood near the back of the church in case of crying but he slept through. Spent a lot of time in a sling and then after the meal he went down in his pram and slept brilliantly. They had a little side room from the main disco and a couple of elderly ladies said they would watch him and sent me off to have a dance.

We were staying at PIL's and I didn't want to faff about with getting our car seat in a taxi so I didn't drink and drove us back instead.