I had a call from preschool saying ds is behind on his fine and gross motor skills. He's age 4 next week. Now I know he can't hold a pen properly yet and I know that's to do with hand strength and I'm expecting it to just come. Pre school said about that, they said he can't open his lunch box, when they're doing an activity like Zumba or balancing he won't join in and they're concerned maybe he can't, when they were doing sleeping bunnies he'd lie down but not get up. They have asked me to work on things at home, gross motor and fine motor through funky finger type activities. But at home he's riding a balance bike, swimming widths on his own with a woggle, doing forward rolls off the sofa, climbing nets at the park, leaping all over a trampoline, he can open all the lunch boxes we have in the house absolutely fine, I just have no concerns. I've said as much to pre school. I think the issue is he's not big at joining in with big groups. He much prefers one on one playing or a couple of kids max. I have tried tasters of dancing and rugby and he wouldn't join in with either. Fine no problem, I thought. But now pre school are raising concerns, I feel I need to tackle it. They asked if he's defiant at home (they know his older sister who certainly is!) but ds really isn't. I just feel like they're seeing different behaviour and I really don't know how to tackle! Any ideas?