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When did your baby / toddler sleep through with no sleep training?

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Jas9090 · 04/05/2021 20:21

My daughter is 16 months and very, very occasionally has 1 wake up but 9 times out of 10 she’s up 3-5 times a night! I cosleep still which I’m totally fine with but still feel like sleep is very broken, she wakes up and cries out for me even though I’m right there then flops back down. It was all fine till I got pregnant but feel exhausted at the moment!

Just wondering what the norm is without any sleep training?

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HelplessProcrastinator · 04/05/2021 22:11

DD1 6 months and DD2 8 months. Both 2 months after they started having food. I only managed co-sleeping until 3 months as I was too knackered. Once the night feeds got shorter I found it less exhausting to put them in the crib after feeds and we all got better sleep. DD2 went through lots of phases of needing me in the night but at least we got times in between where she slept in her own bed. DD1 has always needed her own space and doesn't sleep with someone else in the room.

SlB09 · 04/05/2021 22:17

3.5 to reliably not wake....and a house move to a much quieter house (would have gone through with a move a few years ago if I knew that was the answer ).

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Undersnatch · 04/05/2021 22:17

Dd1 first did it at 18mo but didn’t sleep through reliably til about 3. DD2 I did gradual retreat sleep training otherwise I would’ve died. I couldn’t survive the exhaustion any longer! And also as a second time round parent I was more ok with putting some boundaries around ‘I am not doing everything at night time exactly your way’, which felt a bit evil to me first time round!

GintyMcGinty · 04/05/2021 22:20

6 weeks. Both of them.

Ihaveoflate · 04/05/2021 22:25

5 months bar the odd occasion when she's been ill - no sleep training required, just sheer luck.

stressbandit · 04/05/2021 23:10

About 6 months but my DD has adhd and still awakes now maybe once a night she's 6.

Babyboomtastic · 04/05/2021 23:53

Sometimes at nearly 4.
Sometimes at 2.

I didn't deal with my first at night once pregnant with my second though, as my husband and I saw it as my job to grow a baby and rest, and his job to look after our eldest. That continued after the baby was born.

LouNatics · 04/05/2021 23:57

If we define sleeping through as sleeping for six-seven hours roughly during the accepted night time hours, more nights than not, earliest was 10 weeks latest was 5.5 years. Parented the same....

Thesearmsofmine · 05/05/2021 00:01

6 weeks
3.5 years
7/8 months ish

The younger two I coslept with together for a while. Baby in co sleeper crib, toddler in bed on the other side of me, it was fine, baby never woke the toddler.

Annapops1 · 05/05/2021 00:17

Only had the one DS and he went through at 7 weeks. He was bottle fed though. Woke early (6 am ish) and always had a morning and afternoon nap of around 2 hours. Never dare have a second as was worried I'd end up with a complete opposite! Hats off to anyone who doesn't have a sleeper! When it came to weaning however he was a complete nightmare and was until around age 6. He's 16 now and is like me, still needs his sleep!

newtb · 05/05/2021 00:47

6 weeks

BeefSupreme · 05/05/2021 00:53

About 1 month old. I still don’t know what sleep training is

BeefSupreme · 05/05/2021 00:58

@Annapops1 same, I don’t want a second one because my son is so good and I worry 2nd will be a nightmare

CoalCraft · 05/05/2021 02:11

DD still wakes once in the night to be fed but she's gone from being up every hour or so to just the one waking simply by moving her to her own room. She seems to sleep so much better. I think the sound of me and DH snorting and turning was waking her.

olderthanyouthink · 05/05/2021 03:58

On the technical definition of 6 hours DD did it a few times at 4.5 months and then not again till 2 and a bit, in between has been horrendous. She's 2.5 now and it's still not a given she'll to do 6 hours straight every night, it's not realistic that she'll do a full 12 hours and she does genuinely get hungry and thirsty in the night.

Putting her in her own bed doesn't really make a difference and makes my life harder but I will have to soon as I'm pregnant and running out of space.

Flappityflippers1 · 05/05/2021 04:04

My DS was just over 2 when he started reliably sleeping through.

Have a 6 week old who won’t go more than 1.5 hours between feeds, co sleeping doesn’t make a blind bit of difference etc (yet, perhaps when he’s older). I’m dreading this one being worse than my DS.

mindutopia · 05/05/2021 06:57

Older one generally slept through a bit from 2 but in a floor bed in our room. 3.5 in her own room. Youngest from around 2, but more consistently from 3 (in own room, but co sleeps if he does wake). So generally from 2-3, but even when they are older (4/5) there can be patches of poor sleep.

Hollywhiskey · 05/05/2021 06:58

@Jas9090 that is literally what I did, coslept with a 20m old and newborn in sidecar cot.
I took the newborn out for a couple of nights at first and let my husband deal with the toddler (maybe three nights) because she had tongue tie and I was struggling to latch her, so sitting up half the night with the light on.
After that though we all went in one bed. The toddler had a cot as a sidecar and the newborn had a next2me so there was loads of space. I was in the middle of the kids all the time, learnt to tandem feed laying down (definitely do that, lifesaver) and kept the toddler on the far side of my husband as much as possible.
I'd highly recommend Sarah Ockwell Smith's Second Baby Book which is helpful and reassuring x

NatalieH2220 · 05/05/2021 07:04

I don't remember the exact week but I'd say reliably from around 3 months. He's 5 months now and sleeps 8-6 ish.

My eldest did similar but he then started waking up again around 11 months so we will see if that happens again.

Checkingout811 · 05/05/2021 07:05

I’ve never sleep trained any of mine.

DC1 8 months
DC2 still wakes in the night but doesn’t wake anyone up he’s 3
DC3 6 months

Bluebelltulip · 05/05/2021 07:12

DC1 was 2 years old, DC2 was 9 months old.

elliemara · 05/05/2021 07:12

Both DC around 18/20 months when it started happening occasionally, 2.5/3 years reliably

MasterPretender · 05/05/2021 07:49

About 3 months. Up until then I was waking my twins up every 4 hours to feed them.

It was during a routine check up with the health visitor that I asked when we could let them sleep through overnight, and she very emphatically said to try it tonight and see if they will, and they did!

They're 20 months now and have had two fairly big development related sleep regressions since 3 months, that each lasted about a month, but we're out the other side now for the past 2 months and they don't wake up at all any more again.

Reading all the other posters I think we were very lucky, but didn't feel like it during the regressions.

hiccupgate · 05/05/2021 12:58

27 months, very occasionally sleeps all the way through but most nights spends the first half in his own room then comes in with me for the second half of the night. I don't really mind it and if it gets everyone the most sleep, then great.

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