Back to work after Mat leave

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Hi all,

My baby is 7 months old and I’m back at work in a month. I’m going in to work tomorrow to do a KIT day and same again next week..
My daughter will be looked after by my mum 2 days and my MIL 1 day when I return.
Last week I went for my hair done so my mum watched her for the 3 hours I was gone and she was completely fine so I felt better. Then my MIL had her for 2 hours a few days later and when I went to pick her up she was hysterically crying. Now I’m so anxious and worried she won’t settle for my parents/MIL when I’m back and I hate the thought of her crying that much
She only calmed down last week when I took her and held her for a bit. I just can’t stand the thought of her being that upset and me not being there to comfort her, also will feel really sorry for the person looking after her.
I guess I’m just wanting some reassurance that others have felt like this and that your babies did settle please?

Hi

I had to reply to this as I am in the same situation. I'm due back in two weeks part time and my in laws are doing 3 half days and my mum one half day. I have a toddler and a baby - my toddler settles no problem but my baby is another story!

He's ok with my mum when I'm out of the picture but the minute he's with my mil he isn't happy he just cries and cries until my husband or I take him.

He also cries anytime people try to hold him apart from my husband or me. It does make you feel really anxious and sorry for them.

The best thing I can say is as much familiarity for her as possible as that is what seems to help with my ds and mum. My mum has been taking them every week for the past month to build up and it seems to work but I'm not sure what the answer is with my in laws.

This wasn't really what you were looking for but I wanted to comment so you knew you weren't alone.

Following this for advice!

Hi @Starrygirl12

Well I did a KIT day yesterday and my mum and dad had my daughter. She was really good for them. When I came to pick her up she burst in to tears (apparently a positive reaction meaning a secure attachment) then she reached out and touched my face and said ma. 😢 I’m going to keep going to MIL staying a little bit then leaving for an hour then going back until she hopefully gets used to it. I just feel so bad for them both.

Hi, just wanted to comment as I’ve gone back to work for the first time today, baby 9 months and like you my parents are having him two days and MIL one. I haven’t really left him before but just tried to see them as much as possible. My mum said he’s been an angel all day lots of smiles, just didn’t get much sleep. He started really crying when I arrived too, as you said hopefully a good sign. I’m just hoping he’ll be ok with my MIL next week as haven’t seen her so much. As you said you feel bad for them if they’re upset and not nice knowing your baby upset too.