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Separated - conflict over what days to have DC

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PumpkinSpicedLatte · 02/05/2021 08:20

My husband and I have separated . We have an 8 month old DD. First time parents . Together 8 years, married for 2.
DH says he wants time to himself to do things he wants to do, I’ve only asked him if he would like her every weekend (just daytime not night time), and he’s said he wants time to himself alongside work so doesn’t want her every single weekend, and I just don’t know how to make it work as I will be working 3 days a week and then having her on my days off as well as the days I’m working I’ll still have her before and after childcare , and at night . So I don’t see what to do. Does anyone have an example on how you made it work ? If I see it written down I might be able to formulate a plan more but my head is all jumbled . Alongside severe PND I can’t think straight .
Thank you. I appreciate any help or advise you could offer me .

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happytoday73 · 02/05/2021 08:22

You just go back and say you want equal time alone to do things you want tobdo
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I don't understand why he isn't having her at night...

Fireflygal · 02/05/2021 08:39

Every weekend might not work for you in the future but usual is every other weekend and one night in the week.

Are you getting help for PND? Do you have family support?

PumpkinSpicedLatte · 02/05/2021 08:52

@happytoday73 he’s worried she’ll wake for a feed (BF) but she rarely wakes now . But he’s moved in with his parents so she doesn’t have her own room she’ll be sharing with him so I think it might disrupt her. I don’t mind him not having her at night for now but I equally want to be able to have me time but I have accepted that goes down the pan when you have children and I’ve had no time for me for the past 8 months . I just don’t see what i can do to help the situation and I’m so stressed .

@Fireflygal I have had amazing support on here over the last 7 or so months , I have a thread with lots of people supporting me and also have a good support network here and the hospital have finally started to see me too. I’m in a very dark place though.

So if we do every other weekend and then if his work let him have one allocated day off he can have her then ? Would that be reasonable ?

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