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Friendship as toddlers

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majormumma · 28/04/2021 11:42

I have a mum friend who lives in the same apartment block as me, we both have kids who are 3 months apart and have spent time at least once a week together since they were both born. My friends LO is the sweetest, at the moment he is non verbal and is being assessed for autism.
My LO is also sweet but loud/ non stop talking/ bossy boots and sometimes brash!
When we visit there house I’m just embarrassed sometimes by how my little one treats his friend sometimes, it may be typical 3 year old behaviour but I don’t want to make the time we spend together Unenjoyable - he’s not great at sharing/ wants everything his friend has got and just generally misbehaves which has ended up me leaving their house a few times lately. I feel worse because his friend doesn’t shout back like a lot of children his age do? I know there relationship may be different but I want to make sure my little boy grows up with empathy and is kind to his friends no matter their differences. Is he too young for me to explain that his friend is different?
I don’t want to stop seeing my friend or for it to not be enjoyable for them as I love them both dearly. I always treat the kids the same but in my limited parenting knowledge I wondered if anyone has any advice?

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FortunesFave · 28/04/2021 13:21

3 is completely old enough to learn how to share and be polite. At this age most aren't good at impulse control but you need to watch how you handle him in the moment and not only when he's with his friends but at home too.

If he's snatching things from you or others, you firmly take it back....give it back to the child he took it from and say "No...Tom is playing with this...you wait your turn." and then DISTRACT ..."Look at this truck! Lets see how fast it can go!"

If he keeps misbehaving, you're right to remove him but perhaps you can try taking him out of the room for a minute or two rather than leaving. Does he get upset when you leave?

majormumma · 28/04/2021 14:34

Thanks for coming back to me. I will make sure I am handling the situation and taking onboard.
Yes he was distraught last time we left but I had said if he didn’t listen we would leave and I had to stick to my guns

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