5yo crying when told off/spoken too by adults

[Thegirlwithnousername]

Hello,
Not sure if I have posted this in the right section.
My 5 (Just turned 5!) DS was spoken to at school today other a misunderstanding of what he said and then was kicked by another pupil, all fine and sorted out the issue is he just completely breaks down and sobs and properly drools (Ugly cry's). He didn't want to speak to the teacher about it even thought he hadn't done anything wrong just made a silly comment.
He's always got upset about being told off say if his aunty tells him off he doesn't like it and gets very upset.
Has anyone else experienced this? What can I do to help?

I was/am the same.
I remember my teacher when I was around your sons age asked my mam to come in as I was so upset that I had tidied the wrong 'home corner' I tidied the dolls house instead and I was inconsolable. I hate/hated the thought of being told off it just overwhelmed me! My mam said even before she could tell me if I had done something wrong, even if she just looked at me I would cry.
I'm more resilient now but it still fills me with dread if I think I'm going to be pulled up for doing something wrong especially at work!
At that age I don't think anything that anyone said or done would have helped. It's just the way I am!

@Metallicalover - Thanks for your reply, That sounds pretty similar to how he is - I just feel so helpless but nice to know I am not missing anything massive that I should be doing! - I am just trying to give him lots of reassurance.
He just get's himself so worked up its horrible to see.

I was the same as I child. I vividly remember being about 5 and a teacher thinking I knocked a display over when it was actually someone else. She only said something along the lines of “we’ll let’s pick it up then” but I felt majorly embarrassed and ashamed and couldn’t tell her it wasn’t me who knocked it over. I’m still a bit of a people pleaser now and struggle if people are upset with me. However I have worked at being more assertive, standing my ground etc and I would t say I have any massive issues.

My 7 year old is similar. He worries about things like not knowing where he is supposed to sit, not have a pencil to write with etc. He’s terrified of losing 5 mins of playtime even though he has never lost any play time. We try to help him by modelling making mistakes and learning from them... I proper ham up if there is ever a link I can make between a mistake and learning. We read the book “bubblegum brain” about being prepared to take chances and make mistakes. I try hard not to go over the top about small mistakes and try to help him out things in perspective and verbalise to other adults when he is scared or worried. I suspect he will always be a little bit of a people pleaser like me though.

I’ll be following to see any other suggestions.

One thing I have noticed is the personality of the adults around him has a big impact on him. He’s been lucky with school teachers so far, though he had a shouty/firm swim teacher that he was terrified off for a while.

@AIMD
Thank you so much for your message, That sounds exactly like my DS, He holds back if he's unsure about what he's got to be doing or where he has to go.
I will check out bubblegum brain hopefully that will help.
I am going to try and help him put things in perspective and get him not to be afraid of speaking to adults.
We was recently in hospital with him and he was terrified of speaking to the Dr's. Like a deer caught in headlights!

He was very tearful about going into school this morning and wanted to stay home but I managed to get him there with a bribe of a donut when he gets home.