DS still not moving at 12 months

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The HV has referred my DS to a physio because he's still not moving about at 12 months. He can't go from lying to sitting, doesn't crawl or bum shuffle, doesn't go on all fours, doesn't bear weight on his legs, doesn't roll much and has no interest in moving - just sits still on his mat and plays with his toys.

I don't know much about what physios do, but will they be able to tell me whether there is anything physically wrong with my DS? Are they qualified to check for things like hip dysplasia?

The first appointment is next month and I'm feeling extremely anxious. Thank you.

Hi, you must feel really worried

I think I would speak to my GP asap to get more info about what could be happening and what the physio will be able to do.

HVs are ok but not always clear I think so get some doctor level input?

Thanks, yes I’m so very worried. Will the doctor offer anything else beyond just telling me to wait for the physio appointment?

You can ask the doctor to see you? Say you don't feel happy to just wait a month, see what they say. You can say you would like a medical check in light of the referral in case there is anything medical the HV would not see, and that you are very worried.

Were you worried before the HV visit, did you request the HV yourself?

If he isn’t even weight bearing at 12 months old, you need to see the GP immediately and get a paeds referral.

Why haven’t you done this already?!

Why haven’t you done this already?!

The HV didn’t mention it - surely they would have done if they had concerns? He does bear some weight I think, although he does stand on tiptoes when held in standing. But he isn’t bearing all his weight (fully standing).

Does he sit independently?

My late at everything one couldn't sit up reliably until after 11 months let alone crawl/roll/move. She spent the first 6 months of her life screaming and not sleeping due to undiagnosed silent reflux (HV & GP wouldn't listen).

She caught up quickly from around 14 months.

The one after that sat at a much younger age but was late in everything else.

The first 2 had been bang on average.

@RandomMess yes, he does sit independently but can't get into sitting position himself from lying - I have to put him there. How did your DD manage to catch up - did you see a physio or anything?

DD did none of these things either. The day after her first birthday she finally rolled over. Then started bum shuffling at 16 months, crawling at 19 and finally walking at 21.

At 12 months she wouldn't bear weight either. Nothing was wrong. She just took her time. There could be something wrong and you're right to get it checked out but also could all be fine so try not to panic.

No DD couldn't sit herself up either. They weren't even concerned she just eventually got around to it.

DD1 couldn't do those things either, I went to my gp at 12 months as she wouldn't weight-bear. They were not too fussed and said come back if she is not walking at 18 months.
Slowly she started to catch up, until one day at 16 months old just got up and started running around.

She is now 8 years old and it still takes her while to get used to new things, but when she does it suddenly "clicks" like it did for walking!

@MyGorramShip

If he isn’t even weight bearing at 12 months old, you need to see the GP immediately and get a paeds referral.

Why haven’t you done this already?!

Presumably if that was the correct course of action the HV would have directed OP that way.

Why the nasty comment?

One of mine didn't move either. She eventually stood at about 15 months then walked at 16. She never bun shuffled or crawled.

Ds1 couldn't get into a sitting position by himself until he was at least 12 months. He crawled at 14 months, walked at 18 months. No bum shuffling or other movement prior to crawling. Health Visitor said he was fine, just a late developer. He was indeed fine.

I had a neighbour whose DS was only sitting up and had no speech. I was invited with my DD to his 2nd birthday party. At the party he could see the other children running around, so he just got up and did the same! He then spoke for the first time - in proper sentences. By the time we went home his was behaving age appropriately. Don't worry too much OP.

I found the MamaOT website useful - she's a professional who gives you really practical advice on how to support (not push) your child in meeting milestones. This page might help you:

mamaot.com/developmental-milestones/

DS1 was 17m old before he stood or walked (did both on the same day). He did roll though - he rolled instead of crawling.

I hope everything ok with your little one and that in a few years you'll be another one of us with anecdotes about our babies who were happy staying still.

It's going back a few years now but our DC was not crawling etc at a year. Late to sit up. I can't remember exactly but maybe around 10-11 months we went to see a paediatrician who referred on to physio. The issue was low muscle tone (in our case only, can't possibly say about yours as am not qualified!).

There were quite a few physio sessions and exercises we had to do at home. Can't remember them all but DC did crawl and walk in due course albeit a bit late. Physio and OT intermittently over the primary school years.

Grown up now. Some activities /sports are challenging but not at first glance. Isn't obvious on a daily basis.

I agree you need to see a paediatrician asap, not a physio.

Then once the paed has checked him over they can refer to physio if he needs any extra help, he may not do.

*If he isn’t even weight bearing at 12 months old, you need to see the GP immediately and get a paeds referral.

Why haven’t you done this already?!*

Did that make you feel good?

@SirVixofVixHall

I agree you need to see a paediatrician asap, not a physio.

It will be a children's physio. Why wouldn't they be able to help?

My youngest was similar and it turns out she has some hypermobility in her joints. Physio gave me exercises which did the trick. I did go to the GP too just to be on the safe side.

It will be a children's physio. Why wouldn't they be able to help?

Yes sorry, to clarify, it's a "paediatric physio" that I've been referred to. I have to rush out now but will read all the replies properly later.

My little one is 12 months old and under a physio, he is not crawling, is unable to get into crawling, cannot get into sitting from lying down (but can get from sitting on to his tummy), he does weight bear if I hold him in standing but does not stand without me holding his trunk/hips. He also shows delays in all areas of his development not just his gross motor skills. We are working on supporting him in crawling now he can roll (we had been working on unsupported sitting and on helping him to roll, he didn't sit without support/roll unaided until approx 10 months old).

Call the GP, say you're concerned, ask for a check. The GP may have views the HV would never think of.

Sorry but it’s not just up to the HV to point these things out, they do expect parents to have some basic knowledge of how babies develop and to seek answers if their child isn’t hitting milestones, it’s not rocket science.