So my husband is angry at me and I don’t know why. (I’m totally fed up with this shit) can anyone explain why they do this??

[Hellothere0]

Help!

Cause their men.
I swear they have a period that we don’t know about!
Feel you, their idiots 😂

Standard gaslighting.

Why do you put up with it?! Tell him to pack his bags and fuck off.

No. Most men aren’t “angry” for no discernible reason.

What's he angry about?

Anymore info op?

Need more info

Have you asked him? Usually when asked they go off on one then right and at least some sense of their illogical thoughts comes out

I usually tell him to bugger off and be grumpy somewhere else, unless he's prepared to use his words. Later followed by a talking to about how sulking makes me feel, and makes him look. It's slowly but surely improving. There's a difference between angry and grumpy though. What is he?

I absolutely, 100% will not, under any circumstances, tolerate sulking.

Grow up and speak up; or snap out of it.

@PinkCookie11

Cause their men. I swear they have a period that we don’t know about! Feel you, their idiots 😂

Not sure where to start with this little treat.

OP, no one here can possibly know what he’s thinking. So ask him.

@InFiveMins

Standard gaslighting.

Why do you put up with it?! Tell him to pack his bags and fuck off.

It’s not gaslighting at all. Gaslighting isn’t a catch-all for irritating behaviour. Please don’t misuse it as it minimises then real thing.

@AnneLovesGilbert with no context to her title just trying to make it light hearted.
No harm intended.

It’s not gaslighting at all.

It could be. We don't know.

Need a bit more to go on.

Then I’m sure she’ll elaborate. Throwing around terms on the off chance that’s what’s going on, when she’s barely said anything, is ridiculous.

Have you asked him why?

I lot of men have been brought up to bottle up their feelings and not get emotional. Sadly, they do and the emotions are usually anger or complete despair. A reason why male suicide is so high.

Just get him to relax and ask him to rationally tell you what's up.

"So my husband is angry at me and I don’t know why. (I’m totally fed up with this shit) can anyone explain why they do this??"

A bit more detail would be helpful @Hellothere0.

You say you're fed up with this shit - that implies this is not a one-off situation, but has happened frequently. Are there any recurring features - anger around money, children, job? Are there any visible triggers - tired, drunk, contact with a particular person?

Nobody here will be able to suggest an explanation without some more info.

Thank you for your responses. I’m sorry I was so vague, I was just so angry at the time of posting. There was nothing significant that had happened just normal, looking after kids, household norms. So, I did ask him and he just shrugged it off with, ‘I don’t want to start an argument‘. I’m totally at a loss, he’s never been one for expressing himself, so how do I get him to talk. I’d rather know what I’ve done wrong, instead of just guessing. At least then I can either change my behaviour or hash it out. This happens about three times a month and I’m sick of it. I’d rather know than just go to bed confused/angry/sad.

"I’d rather know what I’ve done wrong, instead of just guessing."

Why are you so sure you did something wrong?

"I did ask him and he just shrugged it off with, ‘I don’t want to start an argument‘. "
By doing that, he keeps you on your toes doesn't he? You are now trying to work out how you made him angry, trying to make things better, whilst he sits back and has you dance to his tune. You are taking all the responsibility onto your own shoulders for his anger. No - the responsibility is all his.

My gut tells me you did nothing to make him angry, but he somehow gets pleasure from making you "confused/angry/sad". If he were any sort of a human, he'd tell you what was going through his mind that made him angry. He'd apologise for making you sad. He'd make an effort not to be angry in future. He's doing none of this, just leaving you hanging while he plays the puppeteer and you wait for his next unfathomable outburst.

He's a wanker.

my dh was the same yesterday,
turned out he was in pain - the shit bag