Moving abroad with a 1 year old also pregnant with 2nd.

[Sal0987]

Hi,
I have been looking at mumsnet threads since having my 1st baby last year but never posted.

In afew weeks I’ll be moving abroad with DH and DD who is currently almost 1 years old in a months time. I also am pregnant with baby number 2. Moving abroad was very last minute as husband’s work has been moved abroad so quickly.

My anxiety is that I’m so used to having my mum and dads help and being around family so much that I will be moving abroad with no help except husbands (he is very good with dd) When I gave birth to dd1 via caesarean I had terrible baby blues and my mum really helped me through that. I feel I will probly have another caesarean with 2 under 2 and be stuck back in the baby blue state of mind with out my comfort people and surroundings.

has anyone had a toddler and a newborn via caesarean and how did they manage with no help?

Sorry for rambling but I just had my scan at 14 weeks today and have just felt anxious because of the situation 😔

I haven't been in your particular situation but is it possible for your mum to come live with you for a couple of months around the time of your baby's birth?

Hi Lizzie,
I have discussed this with my mum. She said that she would come when the baby is born to help me out. Because she is a care worker she has only 2 weeks off but I think she may be able to get some more time off upto 3 week maybe. I’m sure I will be ok with my Dh and dd1 but I’m just very anxious about having a newborn and a toddler
thanks for replying

whereabouts to? Do you have to go? It doesnt sound like a very practical time to move when you will be needing your mums support. Is this a temporary post? Any chance of you staying behind?

Have you got healthcare cover for having your baby?

Branleuse,
Turkey (i have been a lot to turkey because of my husband’s work in the past. It is lovely there)
And regarding not going along I did mention going when everything was settled there so he could go first and I come later but I can’t see me staying behind a option.

Ineedaholidaynow,

I will have healthcare cover

I did this!! We moved countries for DH's work when one child was 14 months and I was very heavily pregnant with the second (both c-sections)! We'd been living overseas for years though.
Are you getting help for the house? I think it's pretty common in Turkey to have a cleaner/nanny/house keeper. If so, get someone to help ASAP so you have chance to get used to them.
Join the mum groups. You'll find people in a similar position or who have been in your position that will support and offer advice.
It might feel lonely and isolating at times but try to connect with people. Good luck.

This is so nice to hear!
My DH did say we would get help but as we are not living in a big city but we will be living in a small town I’m not sure if nanny’s are available. I will find out more from a friend I have there :)
Thank you so much for replying ❤️