problem with a strangers kid I need help with

[Cherryrainbow]

We live in a mid terrace and have a 2 car driveway (there's a fence between us and the neighbour on the right that's where I usually park). We have noticed lately due to our cctv installed that a random school kid (there's a primary school nearby) keeps running down our drive way, around my car and pushes himself between my car and the fence on one side to go back to the pavement when he walks home. I've noticed at least once he has pushed my wing mirror in doing that and I think my partners said he's thrown rubbish in the front garden too. I walked into my lounge today and just caught him going between the fence and my car so I knocked on the window (as was holding sleeping baby). I dont think he noticed. I am debating popping my head out the door if I see him doing it again next week and saying something. Wdyt? Or what should I say It? It looks like the mum just chats with other mums and kids when they go past. It astounds me she let's him run around my car like that. Would it annoy you?

Yes it would and yes I would go out and ask him not to do it again

I’d speak to the mum.

I agree speak to the mum.

Tell the kid off next time you see him do it.

You can roughly guess what time I presume. So I would be waiting near the window next time, go out and firmly tell him to stay off your driveway.

I'm struggling to picture the layout. If theres a fence bordering your driveway, how does he get onto it in order to then run down to the street?

Hose pipe at the ready.. Be washing your car.... Oops...

Layout

So who do the stairs belong to? Is he coming up the stairs and squeezing past the car to get to the street?

The stairs lead to our front door. I stood on doorstep to take pic.
He runs off the street, between the cars, goes around the front of mine (black one facing camera so when I say front I mean that side facing camera) and then squeezes past the car and fence on right side of pic. So more or less loops around my car the black one on the right.

So he just runs in a circle around your car? Honestly it doesn't seem a big deal.

Would you be happy risking your car scratched by some entitled little dc??

Well it is a big deal, the kid has no need to go onto OP drive and squeeze past her car, nor does he need to chuck rubbish in the garden. I would be waiting for him next week and tell him to get off

Kids do such weird things! Yes, I'd wait for him next week and tell him to stop!

I would say something. You have two choices - address directly with child/parent or if the child is still in school uniform, notify the school and ask them to speak to him and mum.

I work in a high school, we've had kids messing around in peoples gardens and because they were in school uniform (so bringing the school in to disrepute by being a nuisance/littering) I dealt with it. In cases were I dealt with it, I was usually given CCTV footage or photos by the householder and I identified the young people that way.

Thanks for comments everyone ill try and say something if I see him doing it again (I'm stupidly shy and anxious about stuff), or I will contact the school - thanks pinktruffle - as we get pics and automatic recording every time he does it.

Also not being funny I had to use that car to get a covid test just after the kids started back at school, and there's some random kid just smushing himself all on it...

This is the trouble with door bell cameras that there's a lot more you notice and get worked up about.
I'd say it seems like normal kids behaviours but if it bothers you then that's your right and you should tell him or the parent how you feel about it and asking if they will stop.
I'm not sure you should be "telling off" a child though and that sounds like unnecessary conflict. Good luck.

Why the angst? Just shout out to him to stay off the drive.

@UhtredRagnarson

Why the angst? Just shout out to him to stay off the drive.

Totally.

OP, you don't even need to say much, a simple and loud "OI!!" should be enough and the next day, simply stand at the top of your steps and give him a look.

Don't know what the Covid comment means OP - that's some serious anxiety going on there!!! Chill out. Millions of tests a week and 2k "cases" without taking into account the high rate of false positives.

Venustiger I have had confirmed covid myself, and have had to isolate several times due to stepsons family having positive tests and it being absolutely rife in my work place (confirmed cases in the 100s) so it has exacerbated my ocd, health anxiety etc.

I will go for the oi and giving look method. If it keeps up I'll contact the school.

Many thanks.

Just say brightly and forcefully"mind my car please" most kids would not want to be told off by a stranger and wouldn't do it again. If he persists speak to mother. Definitely NOT the school!

@Cherryrainbow I suffer from GAD too and that's why I don't watch ANY terrestrial TV/news, I read data and ignore all the hyperbole - it does help me massively.