Desperate for tips on splitting baby care with partner

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I have a 5 month old son and am hitting a point of deep exhaustion and physical strain. I feel utterly desperate in the morning when faced with a full day of baby care on no sleep. I know this isn’t unusual in the slightest (!) but I’m sure there are parents who’ve found better ways to manage.

I’m exclusively breastfeeding and our baby is up between every 1 to 3 hours in the night. My partner is working from home in a 9-5 job. He typically takes the baby for half an hour in the morning so I can shower, and then for brief breaks so I can go to the loo etc.

Any tips on how you’ve split baby care with your partner so that you can have a proper break? Looking for practical advice on things that have worked for you, not comments on our current set up - I’m looking for guidance as I know it could be improved upon, but just too tired to come up with the solution myself!

DH didn’t have to leave for work til around 8.30am most days, so I’d normally feed baby when they woke up between 6 and 7am and then go back to bed til 8ish and he dealt with them. Anything before 6am was still night time and my department.

Also we mixed fed and for a while we did a bottle around 10/11pm and DH normally gave that. So then I could go to sleep around 9 and get a decent stretch til 2ish before they woke.

And yes to DH taking them for a walk or just to hang out playing video games or watching tv with him.

My husband used to come home from work at 5pm where I would hand the baby over and then I would go to bed for two hours sleep. During that time my DH would cook us dinner for us to eat at 7pm. After we’d eaten I would take the baby for bedtime routine etc whilst DH washed up and cleaned up after dinner.

That was our routine even weekday and then at the weekend we’d just share the household jobs and baby care between us.