People looking in babys pram

[Stepawayfromthebaby]

Do people not realise we are in a pandemic? Two strangers this week have come.close to me and tried to look in my newborn babys praim. The anxiety is unreal. I just want to shout at them!!!!

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PFB?

I was on the bus with 5 week old DS yesterday for a midwife appointment. A woman came up, leaned over me, and started literally pawing him! Didn't even say anything! I was so shocked all I could squeak out was "don't touch him!" (Normally I'm very vocal, I was just really taken aback!). She just snarled at me! When she got off she walked right up to the window and glared at me through the glass. Utterly bizarre! 😂

No, not first born. Just longed for baby after multiple miscarriages, pregnancy in a pandemic and not the best labour. I have spent the last 9 months being careful so i don't catch covid, so no I don't want unmasked strangers coming up and looking right in the pram of my brand new baby thank you, not sure what is funny about that?!

@folkyfoxface oh my goodness, that is strange!! Poor you!!

This happened to me when little one in buggy yesterday. Unbelievable in covid times. My baby isn't a newborn but in my head I was still like "get awayyyyyy from him". Massively inconsiderate to say the least.

People are just being nice and babies love seeing different faces. I know it can be worrying but babies are very low risk for Covid

You must have a very cute one

I honestly think I would start throwing hands if strangers tried sticking their head in my pram let alone touching her! Even in normal times i wouldn't want that

I'd stop them as soon as I suspected they're going in during covid times.

I think it depends on the distance at which they looked in, I know it is frightening times but try to understand that they probably didn’t have bad intentions- they just didn’t think!

You can get cute pram signs on Etsy or similar sites which say something sweet like “please keep your distance, I’m little and your germs are too big for me”. Slightly cheesy but it is an easy way to address this without it seeming personal

I think it's bizarre now and before the pandemic. It's invasive. Especially when they get defensive. Like they have a right to do it. I don't want some stranger touching my child. Why is that so hard for some people to understand?

I didn’t give people a chance. I would always love a few meters back if we bumped into anyone and the message was clear.

Saying that, whilst out as a family we bumped into a customer of my partner who decided to waltz up and touch my babies hand.

This happened to me, I just politely said we're social distancing and quickly walk away! It's very rude.

At the start of the pandemic people were literally chucking themselves in bushes to get away from my obviously germ ridden Covid spreading 2yo. Yesterday I had to tell someone to back off in Sainsbury's. I miss the old days.

I went for a blood test this week, my DS isn't newborn but is still a baby and the nurse pulled her mask down and blew a raspberry at him! I was speechless to be honest. I think people (especially older women) just forget all of the safety measures when there's a baby around!

Later that same day another lady let her huge dog put his face right into my pushchair and licked my son all over. I was trying to push the dog off but he was massive and all the last could say was "aww he won't hurt him he's just being friendly"

You have to be so careful OP

I honestly can't understand this - I guess maybe slightly during Covid (though it seems like an overreaction given current rates if we're talking about a look in a pram) but there are always loads of people on MN who feel like this anyway. I have a toddler and a 9 week old so it's not that I've forgotten or don't understand, but I love people complimenting and fussing over them! MN always makes me feel like I must have not got the normal hormones at birth because I never got the urge to hide my baby away and the idea of no one seeing them for months 'so we can bond as our little family' makes me feel very sad whereas it seems to be the MN dream. I remember when DS1 was about three weeks old I took him to church for the first time and the elderly women were literally queuing for a look and to tell me how gorgeous he was - I thought it was lovely!

I remember this before the pandemic when my LO was a baby. Mostly old people would come and stroke their face and hold their hand. I really didn't like it but I would just use a little antibacterial hand wipe after.
I would NOT be happy during a pandemic though.
People don't seem to care though. I daily see people greet each other with big over the top hugs...

Jesus @AtTheWinchester ! Did you make a complaint?

It's not PFB at all - we're all still supposed to be social distancing for god's sake.

A very long time ago, I waked into town with my premature twins in a big old fashioned pram. An old lady pulled their blanket up and put a £1 coin in with them for luck!!

@Hardbackwriter

I honestly can't understand this - I guess maybe slightly during Covid (though it seems like an overreaction given current rates if we're talking about a look in a pram) but there are always loads of people on MN who feel like this anyway. I have a toddler and a 9 week old so it's not that I've forgotten or don't understand, but I love people complimenting and fussing over them! MN always makes me feel like I must have not got the normal hormones at birth because I never got the urge to hide my baby away and the idea of no one seeing them for months 'so we can bond as our little family' makes me feel very sad whereas it seems to be the MN dream. I remember when DS1 was about three weeks old I took him to church for the first time and the elderly women were literally queuing for a look and to tell me how gorgeous he was - I thought it was lovely!

Same tbh

I really wouldn't get worked up about this I have to say

@WeAreAllCompletelyFine

I really wouldn't get worked up about this I have to say

Ditto

@hardbackwriter I was as chilled as anything first time round with my daughter and loved visitors and didn't mind the people coming and seeing her in her pram or when I was holding her etc in cafes, so much so that before the pandemic we were a family that went on holidays fairly regularly and the amount of people that wanted to come over and see her was lovely and really did make our holidays, but this time I don't like it, especially as its taken me a while to my baby here and we are in a pandemic. I have felt really anxious this pregnancy because of the miscarriages and pandemic so I do feel extra protective. People don't even ask which I think is what I have a problem with, they just think it's OK.

Do you think then maybe that you're having a problem with anxiety, especially if you didn't feel like this before? It might be worth mentioning to your GP or health visitor at the newborn check? I had recurrent miscarriages before DS1 and it takes such a toll mentally but at some point you have to accept that they're here safely now and try not to let it colour their future otherwise it will cast such a long shadow.