2 month baby

[1990fran]

Hello

My LO is 2 months old, first baby, been co sleeping safely since born, he wont sleep in his next to me or moses, tried a.hot water bottle, blanket with scent, swaddling, dummy white noise etc, I dont do all of that "let them self soothe" i can't bear him crying im lost on how to go about this, my friend said its a newborn thing they want touch and scent but worried if i dont break this now I never will be able to, Tried letting him fall asleep on me then putting him in but then he wakes again, any tips etc would be great, Thank you x

Personally I think this just comes with time. My LO was exactly the same and I just kept trying to move her every now and then. I think from about 10 weeks, I was able to transfer her into her bedside crib after she’d been asleep a while. It wasn’t always successful (she’s 5 months now and it still isn’t always successful!)

Literally could have written the same post, my little boy is 6 weeks old and he will only sleep soundly and for any lengthier time when co-sleeping, like you - I'm wondering if he'll get too used to it and not want to sleep in his cot at all in the future.

I have found sometimes that if I keep my hand in near him in his co sleeping cot for a few mins that it'll get him to fall asleep without being directly beside me.

2 months is still tiny. When they get bigger you can cuddle and then roll away. When DD1 started school nursery at 3 yrs old over 50% of parents said they still cuddled their lo to sleep.

He’s still teeny tiny, don’t let it stress you.
It becomes so much easier once their bigger.
If you need the space have you tried white noise? Put it On whilst he’s asleep on/next to you then you can try sneak away. Wait 20 mins till he’s in a deep sleep and try moving away

Don't worry about it. I have cuddled/fed both my DCs to sleep until they didn't need it any more. It was never a problem, DS1 is now 12 and he hasn't needed it for many many years! DS2 is only 2.5 so still does. I'm happy to keep doing it. It's really no issue at all.

There’s no such thing as bad habits with a baby so young. If it works for now then keep doing it until it doesn’t work or try every now and again to see if he’s ready. Sleep is a rollercoaster for the first year so I personally feel that doing whatever gets you the most sleep is the best thing to do.

DD slept on me on the (very comfy) settee for 15 weeks after she was born..! Totally against everything everyone recommended, but it worked for us. She didn't have any major problems transitioning to a cot. Hugs to you - it can be so confusing trying to do the right thing, but trust your mummy instincts 🤗 xx