Will I make my baby lazy?

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Hi fellow parents :)

Sounds like a strange question but I'm a first time mum and have NO IDEA what I'm doing 🥴

I have an 8 week old baby. He is relatively well behaved at night time (in bed around 8ish and only wakes up 2/3 times to feed on a good night)
He has started waking around 6am, no matter when he had his last bottle. I'm guessing this is because the sun comes up around this time and as he's still in our room it comes through the blinds (he will have blackout curtains in his room)
I have been staying in bed when he wakes at 6 and then going back to sleep with him in my bed. He then doesn't wake up till between 10 and 11. Which is a wonderful lie in for me and I could do with the sleep with him still waking at night.

My question is, will this make him lazy? I am on maternity so it really doesn't matter what time I get up and if I have somewhere to be early on there's no problems as I just get up when he does the first time. My other concern is, he won't go back to sleep at 6 without being in our bed. Am I making a rod for my back by letting him be in our bed at that time? He sleeps fine in his next to me crib at night and eventually goes to sleep in the day in his cot (sometimes it takes him FOREVER to settle in the day, but that's a whole other story! And please, no judgement that he's in his cot in the day. He has already outgrown his Moses - Lanky like his dad)

Sorry for the essay and thanks to anyone that reads it all and takes the time to reply!

No your baby wont be lazy. The babies sleep pattern will change loads over the next few months.

Enjoy the lie ins while you get them. My 14 month old is now up and rearing to go at half 5🤪

He’s too little to form any habits right now. Just do what feels right for as long as you need to. My DS cosleeps and we used to be able to have lay ins with him like that but now at 16 mo he has started to wake at 6am and no amount of bf can put him back to sleep lol. Enjoy it while you can.

No such thing as a lazy baby. No such thing as a lazy mum of an 8 week old! If you’re happy and he’s thriving then crack on. For quite a while, DD slept 9-9, had a feed then slept till midday. I didn’t question it, she was happy as could be and I was incredibly well rested.

I don’t believe in rods for backs. Follow your child’s lead and you’ll do great.

By sleeping in his cot in the day, do you mean he’s napping in a different room? That’s not a good idea till they’re 6 months so if he’s outgrown his Moses basket you could get a baby box (look it up) or put him down on a blanket on the floor in the room you’re in so you can keep an eye on him.

@Aimee1987
Half 5?? My god, I'd be dead on my feet by midday! I know it's not forever and it's nice to have cuddles with him 🥰 I'm just constantly worrying about the things I do now making life harder for me as he gets older!

Most parents would give their right arm for a lazy baby, toddler or child who likes to sleep in in the morning, enjoy it while it lasts!!!

Ha! I used to do this with my dd when she was a baby. Now, she is the only teenager I know who gets up at 6am by choice!

No your baby won't be lazy. He has no concept of times and clocks or lie ins at the moment.

Just enjoy it. Sounds lovely tbh

Oh my goodness, no it's fine - lap it up! Nothing better than a morning snooze when it's just you and the baby and you have nowhere to be.

I'm quite envious!

God I remember those days 😭 my 6 month is now up at 6am SHARP. Enjoy it while you can!

Also, piece of advice...put anyone who tells you you're making a rod for your back straight in the bin. Your baby is only little once and it is natural to cosleep and want to soak up all the cuddles...sleep isn't linear and is totally developmental. Your 16 year old will not still be sleeping in your bed, promise 😆

You definitely won’t make him lazy. I’m jealous! My 4 month old is awake for the day at half five 😭

Just make sure you’re practicing safe co-sleeping (as per the lullaby trust) when he’s in your bed and you will be fine.

Nope it is absolutely fine. I did the same thing with my eldest and still look back fondly on those days, he is 10 now and not lazy! Enjoy it because if you have another dc at any point you won’t get the same chance!

Hi everyone,

Sorry for the slow reply, been a nightmare of a day! Glad to hear I'm not spoiling him, I'll definitely make the most of it while I can! Sounds like it won't be like this for much longer 🤦😂

@GrumpyHoonMain I thought habits were formed from the outset?

@AnneLovesGilbert he is in his nursery during the day for naps, yes. He only naps for a maximum of 45 minutes at a time and only 2 or 3 times a day. I have a baby monitor and go in regular to check on him. I know it goes against advice and isn't ideal, but I have a large dog and wouldn't feel comfortable leaving him downstairs on the floor! At least in his nursery, there is a stairgate so I don't have to constantly keep an eye on the dog.

@otterbaby oh my, him still in bed with me at 16, I think NOT 😳 that did make me chuckle 😂

If you’re keeping the curtains/blinds closed while you’re doing this I would suggest that you open them because you want him to start to get a feeling for night and day.
Otherwise enjoy it!

He is relatively well behaved at night time
lazy baby

I know it’s probably not intentional but I feel really uncomfortable when people attribute negative behavioural language to tiny babies. They’re not being lazy or badly behaved to cry / not sleep / etc etc, they’re just being babies!!

No it won’t form bad habits, enjoy every moment as it just whizzes past

@mysocalledloaf the sun streams through our blinds in a morning, hence the 6am wake up! Definitely a good idea though, the first thing I do AFTER the nap is open the blinds, never thought to do it before!

@ShirleyPhallus you know what, you're completely right. Didn't mean for it to come across that way at all, I know for now he is only little and just being a baby. I'm just trying to form the best habits/routine to make things the best and easiest they can be as he gets older. I guess I also feel slightly guilty, it's me being so lazy, not him!

No :o

Honestly there is such bollocks talked about babies and habits. Do what works for you. A few weeks let alone months is a lifetime for a baby. Their habits change for better or worse without you doing anything at all. You can always change stuff later.

You won’t spoil him and Enjoy it as long as you can! I used to love the early morning feed and then back to sleep til it was time to head out. Ours was 7am then we’d surface around 10 to get ready for a mummy date.

Now we’re lucky if he sleeps til 8 :/ I do sometimes have a cheeky co-nap on weekends though. Sleepy snuggly little ones are the best!