Sleep regression - night time feeding

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Hi all,
My Lo is 16 weeks and I'm positive that she's going through the sleep regression!
The past week has been up & down every night, constant wakings, won't settle unless I'm holding her or she is tucked up beside me etc
I really do not want to co-sleep as its something I personally don't want to do however after hours of going round in circles I give up!
I have been consistent with her bedtime routine 7pm bath, pjs, feed & bed for 7.30 and have been doing this for 5/6 weeks.
She was generally only waking to feed once in the night around 3am and then straight back down then til 6.30/7am (oh how I miss that) last night she was pretty much awake every hour from 12.30
She is also in the weeks for her next leap so im assuming she is also going through this!
Do you think it would help maybe offering her an extra bottle when she wakes in the night? Or will this encourage extra night feeds once she's through the leap/sleep regression as she's been only having 1 bottle a night for a while?
I'm a first time mum so learning as I go!
I also know I'm not doing the right thing by picking her up through the night like I have been but it gets to a point where she just will not settle unless she is with me, I'm aware of SIDS risk this is another reason I don't want to co-sleep but if she won't sleep in her next to me crib what am I do? I dont want her lying awake all night...?
So confused 😕

Definitely feed her if she’s hungry! Babies this young don’t form “bad habits” everything they do is due to their instincts. You are also most definitely doing the right thing picking her up! She’s tiny and wants comfort. You can safely co-sleep, lullaby trust has lots of safe sleeping guides.
Your baby’s sleep will change constantly for the first year or so, just remember it’s all phases and won’t last forever! (my 6 month old DS2 is currently waking 5 times a night after only doing 1 wake up for months!)

@LBB2020 she isn't crying for a feed? she initially starts waking in search for her dummy, sometimes she will take it and go back off for a while but if this doesn't settle her she will spit it out and start waking up this is when I'm picking her up and she will go back to sleep but its as soon as I put her down she wakes straight back up?
I was thinking if she's waking every hour from 12.30 would it be worth seeing if she would take another bottle at 12.30 (which I think she would anyway) and this may help her settle for longer? But if she's going through the sleep regression would the extra bottle do any good? 🤷‍♀️

It sounds like you’re having a tough time, I remember finding that age really hard work!

I know you said you were worried about SIDS so you might find this info from unicef reassuring
www.unicef.org.uk/babyfriendly/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2016/07/Co-sleeping-and-SIDS-A-Guide-for-Health-Professionals.pdf

Is definitely not wrong to pick up your baby if she needs you!

It sounds like you have a good bedtime routine so definitely keep that up.

Sleep is a bit of a roller coaster for the first year so there will be good phases and bad phases and I don’t think there’s a huge amount you can do to influence it apart from trying not to let them get overtired where possible.

It won’t be long until she’s 6 months and then you could sleep train if you’re still struggling (it’s not for me but I know some people swear by it) or she might go back to her old pattern once this burst of development is over.

I found Lyndsey hookways book “let’s talk about your new family’s sleep” really helpful at this age