Husband not taking safety seriously

[Elzibells]

Hi, I'm a SAHM to a 1 year old. I just wanted some advice and different opinions on the following...my husband takes medication first thing in the morning before he gets out of bed. We have agreed that he will keep all tablets in a locked box on a high shelf in the kitchen yet I still keep finding them just lying around, not even in their packets. This morning I found one in the bed, last week, one under the couch. Despite our agreement he keeps leaving them out or putting them in his pocket and forgetting they are there meaning they fall out. Luckily I am hypervigilant and keep finding them before our DD does. She is at the stage now where she puts EVERYTHING in her mouth. I am with DD all the time but she is now walking and it is getting more difficult to constantly watch what she is up to. I am really worried she is going to come across one before I do and swallow it. We won't even know what it is because he takes them out the packet. I suffered with anxiety after DD was born and have managed to overcome this but this issue is causing me to be very anxious again. I have discussed this with DH on multiple occasions and he is always very apologetic, says he won't do it again but then he does. I don't want to be angry with him but this has happened in excess of 10 times now and he isn't listening. Has anyone else been in a similar situation or is there any advice you can give me to try and help him to stop being so careless?

I agree (and so does he) with what you all say about child safety being a non negotiable issue. It isn't something you get a second chance with. He is a more than brilliant dad and a very high functioning person which is why I was so baffled about the situation in the first place and came on here for advice!

The trouble is by your own admission you've broached this subject more than 10 times and your child is only a year old. He might agree verbally that should the worst happen it's a situation in which you will not get second chance but his actions do not match what he is saying.

I hope I'm wrong but I sadly don't think this conversation will make even the slightest difference in his behaviour. If none of the other conversations and possible near misses have led to change what makes you think this time he will act?

It's not an ideal solution but I would treat dh like a child on this issue. Meaning keep the pills in a high cupboard and hand them to him in the morning.

It's just not worth the risk, you may not know your child has eaten one out of eye sight and your dh can't demonstrate enough responsibility for whatever reason.

Are they strong prescription pain killers? Opiates can make a person quite groggy and slow cognitively. That may explain his careless errors?