Marriage tomorrow, haven't told ex!

[Delboybaggins]

I am getting married tomorrow but haven't told the ex H. He knows I'm engaged but doesn't know when wedding is.

It was a terrible split and he has given me nothing but grief over the last 3 years.

I'm just going to let our 9 year old DD tell him when she sees him.

Am I right or wrong to do this?

There’s no reason you have to tell your ex. I suppose the issue is if it will be awkward for your DC but I don’t think I’d feel the need to ‘inform’ them. My ex and I didn’t share our wedding plans.

I think I would have to tell him myself afterwards as I couldn’t leave it to my child incase they got grief for it.

Not fair to leave it to your 9 yr old, wait til you’re married then tell him

Thank you.

I didn't tell him we were engaged, the DC mentioned it.

Think he'll take it better from DD.

Seems kind of unfair on your 9 year old, that she has to deal with reaction. I think you should woman up and tell him yourself.

It’s really unfair on your DD for you to expect her to tell him - she’s only 9!!! So what if he ‘takes it’ better from her. She’s a child.
You’re the adult. Tell him yourself

Oh come up grow up and pull up your big girl pants. Don't make your child tell him

Okay point taken.

I'll message him later on tomorrow.

Don't message him on your wedding day! Enjoy the day he can wait there is no rush to tell him.

Congratulations and wishes hing you many happy years together xx

Definitely not wrong to do it - You don't really owe him that news specifically.

Hope the wedding went well today.

You don’t owe him anything but at the same time I would tell him just to make sure it isn’t left to DC as that isn’t fair. Wait until the wedding day is over, then just message and say btw got married, don’t even have to say when.