Spat at in school

[Loopylisa73]

For some time a child has been making life a bit miserable for my 10yr old DD. Not physical but cruel.
My DD is classed as extremely clinically vunerable, and finally allowed back to school as im a key worker. The school called me to say this child spat at my DD!! I was horrified, my DD upset.
The school internally excluded from class for a morning and kept her in at break but allowed her 2 friends to stay to play with??
The child is also 10 and KNOWS that DD is at risk. I don't feel the school have or are doing enough at all, am I OTT?

Being spat at is classed as assault -especially in Covid times & when DD is CEV.
I don’t think you are being ott at all wanting the school to do more. I think I would want things taking further tbh.
I’m sorry your DD is going through this

You're not OTT.

I'd want to know how the school is going to protect your daughter from this child (don't ask about punishments for the girl because they can't tell you and anyway it's not the most important issue here).

I'm afraid I'd be getting a covid test later for DD to check that spitter girl wasn't asymptomatic.

I am not one for going to the police for school kids but if the school didn't take this VERY seriously, I would. It's beyond unacceptable to be spitting at people anyway, let alone in a pandemic on a child she knows is vulnerable.

I had a meeting with class teacher and deputy head and they were going to discuss steps going forward.
When I've asked teacher today they said it's dealt with, and told me how. Policy states 1 day internal exclusion for punishment??? For real??
To say I was cross is an understatement, my DD was upset as the child gloated she had a lovely game indoors with her 2 friends...
I have a meeting with headmistress at 9am . I don't hold out much hope. At a loss what to do next. At 10 she knows what she is doing

Oh I've tested and she is negative, and tested again after 3 day to be sure x

If that’s the attitude of the child I would be very tempted to report it to the police, just to wipe the smugness off their face!
In reality I would hate to make things worse for DD, who is obviously having a hard enough time as it is.
That is no punishment at all. See what HT says then letter to governors if not satisfied? I really feel for you, such a horrible thing for you all to be dealing with.

Really don't discuss what the school is doing with the other child.

Focus 100% on how the school can guarantee your vulnerable child will be protected. Given your daughter's health I'd be tempted to bring in safeguarding - because how on earth are they planning on ensuring your daughter doesn't get a life threatening illness by being spat on while in their care.

The fact the child floated is infuriating and the fact she obviously didn't happen to give on your child by accident is clear but by perusing these issues you'll gift the headmistress the impact of running down the clock whilst enabling her to say "We're dealing with it" type of thing. If you ask how your daughter will be protected, what steps they're taking to ensure she isn't spat on in their care again, focussing only on your daughter and their steps to protect her, it's harder for headmistress to blow you off.

I'd also start the meeting confirming she understands your child's health issues fully, including the actual risk to her (life) if she gets covid.

This isn't about the school's covid protocols, it's far more serious and specific than that.

*gloated
**didn't happen to gob on her

If the other child is ten I would be tempted to tell the head you are considering reporting to the police. The head might be a bit but they are not taking it seriously enough by the sound of it. You can escalate to governors and Ofsted too.

DD and her twin had to shield for 7 months of last year, no exercise etc, so it's been pretty tough on them both .... going back to school has brought so many anxieties and they are still scared to be near anyone as there are very real risks to her .
They did say in last meeting there are never any 100% guarantees these things won't happen again.... but personally I think that's not really good enough

THANKYOU for above advice it's very helpful

Vulgar little brat!

Is definitely assault if she's ECV. It brings to mind that poor boy in Hounslow who had food allergies and someone bullying him, rubbed that food item in his arm or something. He died. A bit of an extreme example but when will the school do something to teach others a lesson- when it's too late?!

www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-england-london-48124973

What a disgusting horrible child.

I would be so ashamed of my child if they behaved like that. Sickening. Especially during covid.

I would fight to the death for an appropriate punishment and to ensure my child's safety and dignity in school.

The school internally excluded from class for a morning and kept her in at break but allowed her 2 friends to stay to play with??
If you're certain this actually happened I'd go in with all guns blazing.

What the hell is going on with this other kid that makes them behave so spitefully at 10. I would kick off with the school. Their attitude is why this child’s behaviour has been allowed to escalate.

Greyhound.
Her class teacher told me she was excluded for the morning and she was to stay in at break as a consequence of her actions... my DD and 3 other children informed me she was able to have 2 friends and play games whilst being kept in.

Fishwithoutabike

The (kind of excuse) school say there are 'social issue's ' ... I was gobsmacked..

Dreading this meeting , as I am so angry I don't want to mess it up