How do people manage to put their 6 month old in their own room?

[merrynelly]

My baby wakes numerous times throughout the night and will only settle when having his dummy put in by myself. So if I was to put him in his own room, I would have to constantly go in and out the room to do this for him.

For those who have put their 6 month old in their own room, do they really sleep the whole night without needing any assistance, or do you keep going in and out?

Try putting numerous dummies in the cot or knotting a muslin square onto it. During the day she will know the dummy is on the muslin so will reach for it at night

Hahah - most dont.

I used to go in a few times to replace summy, DD still had one feed a night at that age anyway. Like pp said chuck loads of dummies in and they learn to find them.

I koved my dd into her room before 6 months anyway so i was used to going into her

*that’s totally not scientific or backed up with any kind of data.

My LO started sleeping 10x better when I moved him to his own room at 6 months. I still used to breastfeed him once during the night but I think it meant that he learnt to resettle himself when he stirred slightly without me intervening.

Can you get rid of the dummy? Older two DC were rubbish at sleeping when they took a dummy, slept through the second it disappeared. Much easier to take it away at 6 months before it affects teeth and speech too. Refused to give youngest DC a dummy because of it.

My son started to do this but we got some glow in the dark dummies (can't remember the brand) so he could find it for himself

I was still in and out of his room to feed and replug dummy, but definitely fewer times after the first week or so. We did it mainly because he was waking us up with his outrageously loud breathing and thrashing while he was still asleep!

I’m following this as I am in the same predicament. My DD wakes up and doesn’t cry but sits and ‘talks’ so much it wakes us. I’m hoping when she goes into her own room she’ll just fall back asleep on her own and we’ll not need to go to her if she cries. I think this is acceptable???

Also, I think 6-9m is a comparatively easy time to remove the dummy (and any other stuff you want to disappear and have them forget about). Our first had it just for sleep until 2.5y and I'm not very at home to scaremongering about their speech and teeth if they just have it for sleep, but once they get to one they can remember it's not there and get upset about it so you've kind of committed to it for the longer term then.

My son slept much better when put in his own room. Maybe as we weren’t there we didn’t disturb him at all and he started only waking up twice a night which gradually dropped to once and now not at all. Just got to take the plunge sometimes x

We just did it. Scattered about 6 dummies in the cot and didn't go in immediately when she woke up, so she learnt quickly to find a dummy and settle back down.

We went in and resettled a fair bit the first week or so, mostly because he travels in his sleep and kept wedging himself sideways. But he'd gone off the dummy by then, so if he woke up he wanted milk (which we worked him out if over about a month by don't of his dad going in instead of me) or he'd got stuck, in which case it was quick cuddle and back down.

He went into his own room in the first place because we were all waking each other up and I was going back to work and didn't want to inflict him in nursery in full underslept gremlin mode.

We got a Soothertot - 4 dummies attached to each paw. DS learnt to find the Dummy on the end, when he needed it and also soothes himself to sleep by stroking it.

We all slept much better as DH is such a light sleeper he would wake and disturb DS everytime DS as much as shuffled or sighed. Moved him at 29 weeks.

Didn’t manage it either time! DS1 was ready at about 10 months and started sleeping through, DS2 was in our room until he was almost three. They are all different.

Dc1 went in own room at 5.5 months as we were all disturbing each other. He wasn't the best sleeper and multiple night visits replacing dummy, back and forth from our bed to his etc. He ended up sleeping in our bed mainly from 14 months when we felt it was safe and we were too tired to keep putting him back all of the time (just all fell asleep). He finally slept in own bed every night from 2.4yrs old after getting him a single bed which he loved and sort of just did it himself when was ready. Dc2 much easy and has slept through in own room since 6 months and hates our bed (thank god!) Night wakings have been rarer but he hasn't ever had a dummy as never took to one from birth

It was a total failure for us and we had to bring her back to our room! She started waking more often in her own room, it was gradual at first but eventually reached the point where she would scream for hours even if I was in the room shushing and patting. She obviously knew that if she fell asleep I would leave the room! She's two now and still in our room, I won't be trying to move her again until she's old enough to properly understand what we are doing!

Exactly why I didn't move them to their own room at that age!

I assume people that do either sleep train or have unicorn sleepers to begin with so it isn't an issue.

Yeah, we had DD in with us til she was 16 months old. From about 1 she was reliable at sorting her own dummy out (she often did it far earlier than that but sometimes didn't), but she would still go through phases of waking and needing comfort so never thought it was worth it before then. I don't know many people who moved their kids into their own rooms before 1 really.

However actually once DS2 was a year old, I moved him into his room but would bring him into ours if I couldn't settle him after we'd gone to bed or if he woke twice in an hour. I still thought of him as being in his own room, maybe they do something like that?

I left it to 15 months and it was a doddle. No way would I have done 6 months.

People either leave them to cry (not for me), go in constantly like a yo yo (not for me) or have magical sleepers they don't need to do anything with (keeping fingers crossed for number 2!)

Most people I know didn't have baby in their own room till closer to one, the only couple I can think of who had all three children in their own room sleeping through from 6 months had a v regimented regime and followed a fairly extreme version of sleep training to get there (babies left to cry till they vomited, this is by their own description. The logic was, it was a short period after which they were amazing sleepers so 'worth it' but I still couldn't do it)

I don't think many do. I personally don't know anyone whose baby sleeps in their own room apart from ultra religious couple (American) who put their newborn straight into their own room and do regimented 4 hour feeds which I found bizarre, they are no longer friends

Mine were in their own rooms from 4 months. We all slept better as a result.
DC2 had a dummy which kept falling out. I clipped it to her sleeping bag with a special dummy clip, and also had some extra dummies around in the cot so she could always reach one.

We had already sleep trained mine months before he turned 6m so he was sleeping 7-7 with just a dream feed at 10pm that we did before we went to sleep. If you don't want to sleep train without a dummy then you have to just put up with running in and out for dummy runs I guess!