Being the second favourite parent...

[crazymuseummumtobe]

I'm convinced my 14mo didn't like me. He only ever wants Daddy. Cries when Daddy leaves the room or heaven forbid leaves the house to go to work... Cries if Daddy is holding him and passes him to me, he just pushes off trying to get back to his dad. Cheerfully waves goodnight to me if Daddy is putting him to bed, screams if I am the one to take him upstairs. Happily sits with Daddy to watch Night Garden before bed, won't sit by me.

What am I supposed to do?! I try to ignore it and not let it get to me, but I do find myself being jealous of DH and the affection/loyalty he gets... 😔

I would just make sure you are getting a lot of quality one-on-one time together. Is your DH the main caregiver during the day? Or perhaps does he not see DH as much as he would like?

Just to add, I'm sure he loves you! Toddlers are just funny creatures.

During term time, it's childminder Monday to Wednesday, and me Thursday and Friday. DH is a teacher, so during the holidays, he is primary caregiver Monday to Wednesday while I work. I probably do need to work on the quality time - does he see me as the not so fun one who's always trying to get chores done, while Daddy is always available to play? (Sad but true...)

It's normal - they swap their affections often I find. Just keep being involved and try not to take it to heart.
I'm currently the favourite parent and it's exhausting. 😆

The favourites come and go all the time. Frankly, I prefer being the least favourite 😂. My husband was last week, now I am. As he gets older, he gets more fickle.

My daughter was like this it was ALWAYS daddy, daddy F-ing daddy she's 10 now and still very much daddy. I found a bribe did work well though normally messy stuff like making playdoh or playing with shaving foam or sand. I would be her fav for a week or two but she did alway go back to daddy though. The rest of my DC would switch between favourites.