DS talking over us & won't wait

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My DS is just 4 and is at that irritating and wine inducing age where he is just not getting that if people are talking to one another he must wait u til they have stopped for us to listen or say what he wants to say.
It results in him repeatedly shouting Mummy mummy mummy mummy mummy mummy mummy until I want to chop my ears off just so he can say what he wants to say.
I've tried saying 'if people are talking you need to wait until it's your turn or when they've finished'
Please tell me this is a phase 😂 It's driving me mad 😂
Any tips or techniques on how to deal with this?
Thanks 😊

This is a phase. It only lasts about eight years. And that's with correction every time.

Teach him to put his hand on your leg when he has something he wants to say. You hold it to show you know he does. Start with very short waits and work up!

This is one of those things you need to constantly correct, I'm afraid. He's at the age when learning good manners is really important and will set the stage for future behaviour.

All you can do is reprimand him every time he interrupts, and gently re-explain that we all need to be good listeners and wait our turn. I used to say, "It's my turn to say something now, and when I'm done you can tell me what you think about it, but you really need to listen first." My son would have gone off on an endless monologue at that age of I didn't stop him.

The joys of parenting, eh?

I had a friend who's Son did this..

at 14 years old he would stand between whoever his Mum was talking too and his Mum and just say... Mum mum mum mum mum mum mum mum on and on until she stopped talking and responded to him.

He was tested for Aspergers Autism ADHD and many others, negative.

He's still very needy and he's 24 now .. He does it with his Dad too

not sure why 😳

Use a 'Talking Stick'. The person who is speaking holds the stick, then when they've finished, they give it to the next person. If you don't hold the stick, you don't speak.

Doesn't have to be a stick, any object will do as long as everyone knows its significance.

I used to say to my son after the umpteenth muuum! What is it that you want to say that is so so urgent it can’t wait until we’ve/I’ve finished? “Err it’s not that urgent, “ “well good it can wait then! “That worked so well that eventually he knew I was going to say it as I’d raise my eyebrows and he would wait. As an aside I asked him when he was about 24 what he thought of my discipline style when he was younger . He said “I think you got it about right mum but blimey you had some seriously killer looks.” I can live with that!

@October2020

Teach him to put his hand on your leg when he has something he wants to say. You hold it to show you know he does. Start with very short waits and work up!

This worked for us. Although now he's at school he puts his hand up instead. (Doesn't stop him starting everything with "mummy"/"daddy" and waiting for us to say "yes" though...)