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My baby doesn't need me anymore!

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DisneyGirl2387 · 08/04/2021 07:58

Silly post I know but I'm feeling sad. When my DS was little he would only sleep on me or DH, then he would sleep in his moses basket being rocked, then we stopped the rocking and just held his hand and stroked his face. Yesterday he did all naps and his nighttime sleep on his own for the first time. I just left him and he fell asleep by himself. I obviously sat on the floor at the other end of the crib out of sight gazing at him feeling proud and heartbroken. I mean I know this is a great step and I am so pleased but part of me feels lost. The highs and lows of motherhood!

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Thatwentbadly · 08/04/2021 09:54

How old is he? You can crib so I’m guessing young. Enjoy it while it lasts because there is a very good chance it won’t. He still needs you but he obviously feel safe and secure enough with you to know you will be there when he needs you.

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MotherOfDragon20 · 08/04/2021 12:13

Going this is exact thing with my 5 month old daughter! Has napped on me for every nap her whole life, I tried putting her down the other day out of pure curiosity and she fell asleep within 2 minutes no problem, I felt absolutely gutted . Even if she is ready to give up the cuddly naps I don’t know if I am!!

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Pinktruffle · 08/04/2021 15:57

He still needs you for lots of stuff!
I feel quite judged for my LO only doing contact naps, but he is 4 months and I know he will grow out of it so I'm just going to continue enjoying my cuddles. He is already putting himself back to sleep after feeds at night, and his morning nap is usually in our bedroom where again he puts himself to sleep in this crib, it's only a matter of time before he does it for all his naps.

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Ajahd · 08/04/2021 16:01

Oh god, I'm feeling the same. My 6 month old is feeding himself his solids, sits up by himself, puts himself to sleep and plays with his toys.

Thinking about packing him off to get a job and a flat for himself 😂

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SweetAsANutt · 08/04/2021 16:15

@Pinktruffle

My son done all contact naps. The thing is as mothers you're made to feel judged for this. Told to put them down by themselves etc.
It's the most natural thing for you and baby don't worry about what others think.

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tiredmum2468 · 09/04/2021 10:33

@DisneyGirl2387

I had this feeling with both my babies; it's sad but reassuring they're settled at the same time.

While the babies slept I used to make a nice drink, sit down and take a few minutes for myself 💐

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Hoppinggreen · 09/04/2021 10:34

My 5ft 8 12 year old baby still needs me sometimes, as does his 16 year old sister
Enjoy the new freedom

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ThatScottishLass · 09/04/2021 11:19

We still do one contact nap a day and she still needs me to fall asleep. I refuse to feel guilty, baby needs snuggles and we’re never getting this time back. I had a cry yesterday just because she’s getting bigger and I know that one day she won’t need me...

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Somethingsnappy · 09/04/2021 14:33

Ah, he feels absolutely secure and confident with all that lovely contact he has had from you. Take it as big praise for your parenting. You obviously know what he needs and when he needs it and have adjusted accordingly. We'll done! And he does still really need you, no doubt about that.