So my 3 year old son has been "potty trained" for a quite a while now, maybe a year. He's had mishaps all along, as expected, nothing very significant, usually just a small dribble in his pants - I've heard this is fairly normal.
Then last summer he seemed to have a diarrhea problem, we changed from cows milk to oat milk, and over night it seems to solve the problem..however the problem resurfaced a month or so later. I was trying to lower his fibre intake, especially fruit, but it got to the point where we were constantly saying no to all the foods he likes.
I want to get a doctors appointment to see if there's anything going on medically, but they're so busy after the bank holiday I can't get one yet.
The other thought is, we have an 8 month old daughter. Is there truth in kids reverting to soiling themselves when they see dirty nappies?
We also got fed up to the back teeth of encouraging him (which usually turned into discipline or an argument) to go for a wee, that we've decided to let him decide when he goes, but he will just hold it for HOURS on end, so much so, his belly will hurt, or he'll wet himself before going.
So several points all relating to avoiding the toilet which we can't get to the bottom of.
Yes, we've tried discipline (rightly or wrongly).
And we've done reward charts.
Neither work 😑