Struggling to enjoy baby

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Before I had him, I was so excited to be a mum and I couldn’t wait to meet him.

Now ... I feel a bit overwhelmed and worn down with it. I have to stress here I don’t regret him. I would not have wanted a child free life. Just the same the layer of complication. Going to the supermarket. Picking something up on click and collect. How to fill the day - I never know how! Not being able to watch TV or read a book or even talk to husband!

I know people will say what did you expect. Honestly I did expect it. But I didn’t know how it would feel.

I can relate to this. My baby is 6 weeks old and I feel totally the same. I almost feel like "is this my life now" but I know things will get better as baby grows and we can get out and about etc. Just wanted to say you're not alone! My husband and I also snap at each other now since baby arrived and we have never fallen out in our 7 years together! It's hard! But I don't say this out loud! Big hugs

Perfectly normal! It’s a huge change no one can ever prepare you for!
It gets better and it becomes natural and so much easier! Hang in there and know you are not alone!

How old is baby? It’s hard at the moment cause baby groups etc are closed. Stuff like going to the shops etc will get much easier with time... does baby nap in the pushchair?

Why can’t you watch tv?

Sometimes will sleep in the pram. I am looking forward to baby groups and so on, I think that will help. M

I felt that way, especially around the 6 month mark, when my son started to become active and interested in things around him, but couldn’t do much. I found it helped making dates to see people, go to baby classes etc, which I appreciate is difficult to do in these circumstances, although we’re now at the stage where we can meet for walks outdoors and the weather is starting to get nicer. Having a bit of a routine helped (but not being too strict with it). It gets easier with time and for me going back to work eventually, helped me to get a routine back and enjoy motherhood more, as I had a bit of a break where I was earning my own money. You’ll find your feet. Just keep trying new things and routines until you find something that works for you both.

I found it helpful to know I was getting a lie in - so shared these with my husband. He would get Saturday and I would get Sunday (he would deal with the wake ups Saturday night). You both need a rest and it is extremely important that your work is recognised and that you need a rest and a break!