I hate being a mum

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My DS was a decent sleeper until he hit 10 months but for the last 6 weeks he’s been a total nightmare. If I put him down for a nap he will instantly scream and cry until I give in and take him for a walk in the pram. It can take him an hour to fall asleep so I’m often having to do two, two-hour walks twice a day. It’s exhausting.

He’s the same when going to bed at night, crying and screaming for 1.5-2 hours before finally falling asleep. Fortunately he does normally sleep through once he’s finally dropped off (probably because he’s so tired from barely sleeping in the day). When up during the day he’s generally happy, though will whinge and cry if left to play alone for any longer than two minutes.

I honestly can’t take it anymore - his cry just sets me on edge and I’m totally shattered. I’m either trying to get him to sleep or playing with him and I don’t get any downtime whatsoever, as when he is asleep I work part time.

I feel so frustrated and tempted just to leave him to cry it out. I often find myself wishing I hadn’t become a mum as I feel so tired and stressed all the time. Having these thoughts makes me feel hugely guilty and cruel and therefore even worse about myself.

Thankfully DH has been off work yesterday and today so has taken him out, but I’m already dreading tomorrow. Honestly - I don’t know how much more I can take.

Oh and did I mention... he was up at 6am this morning!!

Great advice on this thread. I can say hand on heart that I hated the baby phase. Moments of bliss surrounded by hours of crapness.
It honestly, honestly gets better. This too shall pass OP.

If you breastfeed I would snuggle up with him in your bed or I actually used to get in the cot with my DD sometimes. Feed as much as they need to, cuddle, shush and snuggle with them until they sleep. Take the pressure off to get them to sleep as that will not be helping. Try and enjoy the chill and the snuggles - I often listen to an audiobook or podcast while I'm settling my DD. Or if you bottle feed I would go down and tell your husband its his turn then open a bottle of wine and think about something else. Then take turns from now on so you only have yo deal with it every other night - if you're that tired then let your husband take over and just go straight to sleep, thats what I'd do if I had the chance.

Good luck, its really hard but it does pass and then you miss it. Both me and DH are so pleased whenever our 2yo gets in our bed now as she usually sleeps through and we miss her. Nevrr would have predicted that when she was 10m old causing chaos!

Thank you for your replies. What worries me is that he’s nearly 1 (so nearly not a baby anymore!) and it’s not getting any better I know people say it’s a phase but it has been going on for 7 weeks!

My son was like this for months..you honestly just need to ride it out. It will end, I know it feels like forever but you need to just keep going. Mines now 3 and reliably went to bed easily and slept through from 2 years old. He now goes to bed and sleeps brilliantly but I remember those days of desperation. I started bringing him in with me to sleep

I would let him cry it out... be cruel to be kind.

You need some downtime in the evening, all the running when he cries just makes him learn that crying will make mummy come to me. And you don't want that for another 2+ years!