Feeling inadequate

[Lubrana061302]

Anyone ever feel like there's just too much to do? I mean, between house work, the kids, the meals, the dogs, the garden, your husband, trying to have some sort of life (friends, keeping fit etc) i feel like I try to do so much that I feel overwhelmed, do nothing properly, then feel shit about it. In my head I know that I can't do everything but I'm struggling to get a balance. If I do too much housework etc I'm not spending enough time with the kids and vice versa. Does anyone have any tips on how to manage everything? Sensibly I know i need to prioritise but I feel bad when everything's not done and if certain things are done that I haven't spent enough time with the kids. It's a bloody vicious circle. I have 3 wee boys 4 and under and 2 dogs so it's a pretty hectic house hold. Don't even know what I'm posting this for. Think I'm just having a shit day and needed to vent

2 dogs and 3 boys - honestly if everyone is fed and alive you’re winning.
Housework should be split it looking after preschoolers.
Washing wise: only do washing during wk days is my rule (I do eldest DCs on Monday, my baby DCs on Tuesdays, my husbands and mines colours and whites on Wednesday, towels on Thursday, bedsheets Friday).
Keeping fit- 5 dependents, that’s your exercise!
Garden and Cars: husbands jobs!
Food: all eat the same thing, no fussiness.

I know I'm being silly and everything can't be done all of the time but it's the fact that I feel like I'm not doing anything at all properly or completely. It's doing my head in. Like I'm going round in circles looking at everything that need to be done and getting nowhere with it.

3 kids all under 4 is tough. Be gentle on yourself.

Not everything needs to be done, they need you more than the housework to be done right now.

They'll soon be ready for school and you'll find you have a little more free time to get jobs done.

Until then, do as much as you can and flip the rest off. It will get done eventually.

When you look back, will you remember time spent with your boys or time spent doing the dishes?

As long as your boys are clean, fed and loved that's all that matters. Go easy on yourself

I also resigned myself (after my first child) that the days of house clean blitz were over. Every day do a little clean of something (so Monday, run the bath and hoover the stairs), and remember kids grow up v quickly, our homes won’t be messy forever so don’t worry about it.

You can’t be it all, it’s impossible unless you fancy giving up sleep.

It's impossible and we have social media to blame.

You can do it all, just not at the same time.

These idiots posting how wonderful their life is, how clean their house is and how thriving their job and social life is, are lying.

Do what you can, keep everyone alive, fed and clean and do the bits in between when you have chance- and don't be too hard on yourself. We're all struggling and could do with some honestly about how bloody hard it is!

Take care

Anyone ever feel like there's just too much to do? I mean, between house work, the kids, the meals, the dogs, the garden, your husband, trying to have some sort of life (friends, keeping fit etc) i feel like I try to do so much that I feel overwhelmed

Yes, 100%. Add “trying to hold down a job to keep a roof over our heads” to that list and it’s an absolute nightmare. I feel like I’m constantly juggling plates with no time whatsoever to myself. It’s exhausting.

My logical brain tells me that everything can't be done and as long as the kids are looked after and happy then that's all that matters. Just sometimes the rest of my brain gets fed up with nothing being done or done properly. I wake up every day with renewed motivation and I'm constantly busy but just feel I never achieve anything, that's the annoying part. But as a PP said, my kids are clean and fed and happy so that's something. Just wish I could switch my brain off!!