How often see 6 month old when live 2 hrs drive?

[Tiredmum2021]

Hello,
Unfortunately it looks my husband and I are heading for a divorce. My daughter is only 6 months and I have decided to move back to my parents as don’t have any support network up here (or separate accommodation from my husband!). I very much want her father to be a big part in her life and wondered how custody arrangements could work or if anyone has been in a similar position and how they did it?
I thought as she is so small, he could stay at my parents over night (they have enough room for
Me to stay in a separate part) so that if she gets anxious I can just pop in. When she is older and she has stopped breast feeding, I could meet him half way and he could take her back to his for part of the day then I could collect her again. That way his family can all see her in his environment as well. I really want to do what’s best for my daughter and aware she is at a very sensitive age with attachment etc. Eventually I would be happy for her to stay over night at his. How often have people done this? I don’t want her to have to do long journeys too frequently so would prefer he did by far the bulk of coming down. When I get my
Own place I have said he can have it as his own when he visits and I’ll go away in a travel lodge or something. I want to make sure he feels he has quality time with her. I know none of this is ideal but it’s happened.

Thanks so much xx

I have said he is welcome to
Visit as much as he likes. My parents have a caravan in their garden that I can stay in if a travel lodge isn’t always a go too.

I think moving a 6 month old 2 hours away from the dad isn’t ideal as it would be near impossible keeping up regular contact, it’s not like dad could pop by every other day for a few hours to see the baby.

Thanks, unfortunately Yes but there is no way around that, he is not willing to move and works full time till late. I would have no other support e.g drop offs if late from work
Etc

In theory if you are moving you should be doing the driving. Bare this in mind because if it has to go to court they will not be overly sympathetic that you chose to move away from her father whatever the reasons. Offering him accommodation in a separate unit on your parents property is a good option in the short term but bare in mind circumstances will change so ensure you get a written agreement with this being a time limited interim agreement. For the sake of your child, can you not find a way to stay close to your ex?

Is the dad ok with these arrangements? If so why not just give it a go and tweak and adjust if either of you start becoming uncomfortable with it

While the access arrangements of him staying overnight whilst you sleep in a caravan are very generous, this is unlikely to be sustainable when if either of you form new relationships.